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I have a problem with my knee-jerk reaction to someone telling me what to do.
If I am told "Do this" without any explanation or justification and I find whatever "this" might be to be stupid or silly or not interesting, I get pissy.
Well, not just pissy, exactly. I get oppositional. I don't want to do it now. I won't do it. I get mad.
See, this happened at Wenchcon out of nowhere. I was tired and grumpy and wasn't thrilled about the action figure contest thing (I STILL needed to finish resizing the photos from the day before). I walked into the group room intending to do just that and to take photos of the action figure contest.
I forget what exactly jenny gardener told me to do, but she said it in no uncertain terms and I immediately got oppositional. Completely knee-jerk reaction.
Does anyone else do this?
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You say that like it's a bad thing. I go along with authority but in the back of my mind begin plotting their downfall.
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Actually, I don't. I have the exact opposite problem. Due to all my years in karate, I automatically bow to most anything said to me in an authoritative voice if caught off guard, and I'll snap back with "Yes, sir/ma'am!"
I do it instinctively with people who are actually authority figures, and if someone behaves like an authority figure, I'll sometimes do it for them too. It's a reaction to years of conditioning.
Now by no means do I always DO something if it's said to me in an authoritative voice, but I'll usually say "Yes sir!"
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No, Lalo, it's Viva la Raza! Sheesh. A guera had to tell you that, even.
mack, you ARE oppositional. I've noticed that. Don't worry, I still love you. Hee. I don't know why you are like that, but I am sure you have a very good reason hidden somewhere in your tightly layered subconcious.
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I authoritatively say I will NOT get on AIM.
Wait, now *I* am being oppositional. *grin*
I have to go to bed soon. No, really. Okay, maybe I'll come on just for an hour. Besides, rivka's going to get on AIM and talk to you, what do you need me for?
I don't have examples of your oppositionality. I just know that you are oppositional. I block it out because it doesn't fit my mold of you that I am trying to fit you into. Ugh. That made no sense. Getting on aim now.
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It changed when I found some authority I trusted. Now I think about it every time.
Actually, now the rebellion goes occasionally passive/agressive, which I don't like at all. There are very, very few authority figures in my life - basically from church (which I agree with) and from work (which brings out the passive/aggressive since plain old aggressive would not allow me to eat).
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If I'm being commanded by someone NOT an authority figure, and it's a command, and has no please attached, I'm liable to react badly (depending on who is commanding me)
From authority figures...unless I'm having a rotten day, or unless the command is completely unreasonable, I don't mind. Its something I developed at work to help me deal, I just put myself in a mindset of I am lower than everyone else, and everyone else has a right to command me, and then, commands amuse me, and I'm not offended or upset. Works pretty well, and helps me to keep my jobs enjoyable
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I have been told that I have a problem with authority... I tend to agree, although who the authority is makes a difference. If I recognize the authority as legitimate then I usually am ok with it. Otherwise, I might obey, but I will resent it and possibly plot the destruction of whichever bastard dares to command me. Luckily my laziness largely counteracts this tendency, which is probably why I am not in prison.
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It depends, really. If I think said authority knows more than me and is generally competent I'll usually go along with it. If I don't respect that authority I'll gauge whether rebelling will cause me more trouble than it's worth. I usually try to circumvent rules I don't agree with rather than outright disobey them.
And people who make rules just because they can really bother me. It was one thing I hated about school.
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