quote:Originally posted by Homestarrunner: I would have to disagree. My gut instinct says she's flirting, and is in stage 1. Stage 2 starts immediately after she gets the guy interested. Then she starts ignoring him completely and will even be hostile just to maximize his pain and embarrassment.
Sounds like the girl went farther than she ought to have, and is now mortified.
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I just started dating a girl who I've been hiting on for at least 6 months now. Apparently, it took our mutual friend's brother asking how long we'd been dating for it to click for her that I was actually interested in her. I'd long ago figured that she wasn't interested in me, but was fine with me flirting and being physical with her, which I'm cool with.
Now, I'm a very flirty guy, but I'm not very subtle. And though I do spread my flirty around, especially recently, where, for reasons I can't fathom but am not going to question, I've found myself in the company of some really amazing looking women with fantastic personalities, I thought it was clear that if my flirting is on a certain level, I'm basically fair game for you to do with as you will. Apparently not.
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quote:I just started dating a girl who I've been hiting on for at least 6 months now. Apparently, it took our mutual friend's brother asking how long we'd been dating for it to click for her that I was actually interested in her.
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quote:Attraction is a little too week, lust and infatuation are too strong. I doubt we'll find an exact word for it. But he got the point across, I think we all know the feeling he was talking about.
Twitterpation. The word you are looking for is twitterpation.
If it makes me feel like swooning, would it be syncopation?
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I was introduced to my wife by a mutual friend... Bud Light. We met at a bar and after ignoring me for 15 minutes, she finally let me buy her a drink and dance with her. It wasn't my slick moves on the dance floor that got her, it was the fact that after about 30 minutes of talking, I told her I had a daughter from my first marriage. Not the best pickup line, I know, but something made me tell her. (BTW, she had one too from her first marriage. The girls are only three months apart.)
Later that night, we were having an early morning breakfast at Denny's and I looked at her and said to myself, "I'm going to marry her!"
I don't know if it was a little red string, fate, or dumb luck but something brought us together. Maybe it was Bud Light.
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quote:Originally posted by Nighthawk: God, you make that sound so easy.
It is pretty easy, once you realize that it's not such a big deal. True, when you first start dating, it can seem like this is the world's perfect person, and if you don't make them love you, you will never find true love again. Or, sometimes it seems like the possibility of being turned down for a date is so horrible, that it's better not to even ask at all.
Those are self-destructive ways of thinking. I personally don't believe that there's One Right Person out there for everyone. There are a whole lot of people who are varying degrees of right, and you are varying degrees of right for a whole lot of people. The ideal situation is to find a partner who makes you happy, and who you make happy, and go have a happy life together.
The way you do that is by asking people out, getting to know them, and finding out if you're compatible.
It is just like any challenging activity, if you never try, you'll never succeed.
You have to realize that there's nothing magic or mystical about any one person. They're just a person like you. They also get nervous, they also want to be happy and find the right partner. Just talk to them, get to know each other.
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quote:Originally posted by Homestarrunner: I would have to disagree. My gut instinct says she's flirting, and is in stage 1. Stage 2 starts immediately after she gets the guy interested. Then she starts ignoring him completely and will even be hostile just to maximize his pain and embarrassment.
Sounds like the girl went farther than she ought to have, and is now mortified.
There's flirting in 10th grade, when it's almost flirting to flirt, and the kids aren't so jaded yet and can really be manipulated. It's a game. I hate to go age-ist here, but there you go. The stakes aren't quite as high, the consequences don't seem as lasting, and there's all these feelings floating around to experiment with.
I'm certainly not bitter against women, and I'm not against flirting as a form of, er, attracting a mate. But it seems to work a lot differently when high school is some years in the past and relationships have more weight. The signals are different. The games are a little more serious, not quite done anymore with the wide-eyed wonder of teenagers bafflingly oblivious to the results.
The description just reminded me of every single game girls were playing when I was in 10th grade, that's all.
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