quote:Originally posted by mr_porteiro_head: To me, Al is just a shortened version of Allan, Alvin, Alfred, Albert, etc.. It's not a "real" name.
Are you sure that he meant "Al" (Ay Ell) and not "AI" (Ay Eye)? Perhaps he likes his intelligence artificial.
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Don't change your name if you want to change your circumstances. Change your self. One's name is just another designer label.
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For the record, I was serious in my suggestion about consulting a Vedic astrologer. I don't buy into Vedic astrology myself, but I know a bit about it, and if I believed in it and wanted to change my name for reasons having to do with it, that's how I'd go about it.
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You know, I'm not sure I agree. Frankly, I think if you feel you have to change both, it's because you aren't done changing the self.
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It's also possible that you don't understand because you haven't been in that position.
Personally, one of the reasons I changed my name was to make it more difficult for my parents to track me down. I've never been safe when they knew where I was and how to reach me, although now, living halfway around the world, I'm safer than I've ever been. It's also one of the reasons I'll be happy to never live in Canada again - unless they're both dead.
Another reason was that, if they ever found out I changed my name, perhaps they would clue in - finally - that I was rejecting them and all they stood for. They certainly didn't figure that out when I told them I wanted no more contact in any form and I was no longer willing to put up with their abusive behavior. Reporting them to the police was no help as there was no evidence to support my allegations, and restraining orders are notoriously ineffective. Add to that the fact that, in Canada, neither of them would ever stand trial due to their health issues, and I've got a losing set of circumstances.
Changing my name was only a small part of the package in changing my life and my circumstances, but it was an important part. I would do it again.
Granted, I'm also talking about a more extreme set of circumstances than steven, but I can understand his point of view, too. Having been there, feeling liberated by the change of name, I can completely understand why someone would choose to change their name for emotional/psychological reasons.
And that's way more about me than you ever wanted to know.
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