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The un untrustly things hapened yesterday. I discovered i've got a heart. More : he beat for a girl ! unthinkable !
I know her for a long time (around 3 years), but i discover that just yesterday. I think we have the same feeling. However, I haven't courted for a long time. And i am affraid to be too bad and to undispose her.
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In all seriousness, this has got to be one of my all-time favorite posts at Hatrack. Language barriers are so overrated.
The only advice I have comes in two parts. First, and most obvious, is be yourself. You've obviously gotten this far simply by doing that. Second, and only slightly less obvious is to find out if the feelings are mutual. I have no idea how to advise about finding out, but I only know (first hand) that not finding out can lead to bad things.
Also, surely someone else around here has some sound advise that covers something other than the obvious.
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Take her to a poetry reading or a craft fair and buy her chocolate, a cup of tea, or a knick-knack.
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Be honest, and think it all through first....not the conversation with her, but make sure you are positive about your feelings for her before you make any move at all...once you try to date, nothing will ever be the same again, for better or for worse.
Be honest with her, and tell her all the things you like/love about her. Don't try to be subtle...either she won't get it, or she will but you won't know that she did...
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Choobak, the way you write is charming. If the way you talk to her is in any way similar, then I'm sure you'll have no problems. Good luck, and just be yourself;)
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quote:Take her to a poetry reading or a craft fair and buy her chocolate, a cup of tea, or a knick-knack.
Um. . . if you want to be HER GIRLFRIEND!
Sheesh!
:has taken Mrs. R. to poetry readings and craftfairs, bought her REALLY GOOD chocoloate, and neat little knick-knacks:
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I want to add some news about my pretty story. The link is know very strong and we send us around 3 or 4 E-mails a day. I can't meet her in this period because of her exams and inspection (she is french litterature teacher). And i love her, and she love me.
Wow !
The next time i'll meet her is the 9th for the birthday of two friends twins. I want to look in her (thanks Corwin) eyes ! I am becoming crazy...
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I <3 Choobak. How could I miss this the first time round? Hatrack is better for having you. Some people's posts just make your day brighter for no particular reason.
I'm so glad to hear things are going well. May you always be so happy.
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On dit : touiteurpatède. I am laughing a lot ! I don't know the translation. I just know that twitter is a "gazouillement" (the song of a bird) and pated is "carressé" or "tapoté". So, I don't understand what i am ! i continue to laugh...
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Choobak, have you ever watched the Disney cartoon movie "Bambi"? I think that was where they first used the word. It is a cute word for "infatuation". Or in this case, "to be infatuated".
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Ok !! We said in french : "avoir le béguin (pour quelqu'un)". But with the definition corwin has linked, I think a better translation is "être fou d'amour" (litterally : to be crazy of love)
So, yes ! I am twitterpated...
And it's so sweet !
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I'll meet her tomorow evening in a friend surprise birthday party. I am too nervous ! I have little trembles... During one week or more (i lose the time notion), we have written lot of E-mails. All the mine are joined by a poem i wrote. And she likes all and perticularly the last. (I recall to you she is Litterature teacher, so her compliments touched me.)
What will happened ? I am impatient and anxious !
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Ooo, I'm so excited for you! What a wonderful thread! There is nothing like the first thrills of love. Posts: 3214 | Registered: Apr 2002
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Cute Choobak! Hope it goes well. "Twitterpated" is a great word! To me it will always refer to Dana and Bob back when they were both twitterpated about each other, but before we all guessed.
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I know that right now you're feeling like everything is going to end, but give her a little time, ok? Stop making scenarios in your head and try to wait patiently until she contacts you.
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It's 2 am and i can't sleep. I try a hammer knock on my head... Nothing. I agree about scenarii on my mind : I must stop it and try to sleep. But a part of my head refuse to admit that and is in strike like the subway drivers currently (that why she can't go this evening.
I must go working tomorow, but i am so bad !!!
That will be hard...
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Oh well... I'm in love too, you know. Yesterday I just had my worst sleep ever. I managed to go to sleep at around 2AM and woke up at 6:30AM... I DON'T recommend this... It's already late, but if you can you should have some linden tea to calm you down and go to sleep afterwards.
I think I should sleep too... Good night, Choobak!
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Thanks a lot. I'm going to reading a book and change my mind. Tomorow, i'll speak with my best friend. He may have a better point of view. An objective eyes on my depressed attitude.
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I say yes, but then - at the time of losing, it will almost definitely seem like the answer is no. That's why I try to love and keep. Posts: 1431 | Registered: Aug 2003
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I'm sorry to hear that, Choobak. I really hope it's just a misunderstanding... Whenever you feel like it, let us know, OK ? Posts: 3526 | Registered: Oct 2001
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*hugs Choobak* Let us know what happens, ok? And be sure to e-mail me if you need anything (e-mail in profile).
Better still, e-mail me in French, so I can also try to improve my skills and help you at the same time! Posts: 7877 | Registered: Feb 2003
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Morning was hard : I have slept just 3 hour and half. So... I think i am becoming too crazy and totally unobjective. I'll speak with my best friend in a half hour. He is also a friend of her. So his vision may be better than mine.
I think the slightest things which let me thing she doesn't love me get a super size.
She answered me in a very short mail to a global message to my friends about a party i organize to say she will come. She added she was busy so she can't answer me these days.
All have explanations... But i'm terrified to be in conflict with a friend...
Pfff !! I sight.
It's hard, but you are sincerly friendly with me.
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One advice: try to calm down and sleep more. (if you can make it you're good, I never managed to! )
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I think i was in a bad time. I discuss with my friend and i see the view better than before. I breath slowly and deeply now. Excuse-me to make these sad post... I'm going to eat a little and next : sleeping. She want i continue to send poem... That i made.
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Hey, Choobak! How's your weekend going? I'm glad you decided on a more positive approach to your situation. Keep it going! Posts: 4519 | Registered: Sep 2003
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Choobak, here's another piece of useless advice: don't overwhelm her with messages and/or phone calls. She might want to go at a slower pace, and if you keep it like this it might just drive her away.
Remember, the fact that someone doesn't act the way you do doesn't mean they don't like/love you. It's just that every one of us has different ways of showing affection. For some it's a burning flame that'll consume them from the start, for others it builds in time, along with the trust in and knowledge about the other person.
That said, I also hope you have a better week, and don't hesitate to post about any problems that might arise. Posts: 4519 | Registered: Sep 2003
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Yes Corwin, You're right. Writing is my expression way and speaking is more difficult.
I stay cool now.
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Merci Corwin, tu viens de me réveiller et de me faire prendre conscience du goufre dans lequel j'allais plonger. Je crois que je perdais de vue tout ce qui faisait ma vie avant. Un exemple : hier en Nationnal 5, je me suis fais ratiboiser par un moins fort que moi. J'en perdais la luciditer de mon jeu.
Sorry for the non french readers, but as Mr Card has writen in Xenocide, When you passionly speak or write, you return to your original language. I just say to Corwin thanks because i didn't see the wall face of me. sO Corwin, you win a drink when you'll come to Paris. I add that all of you who support me can come too. I'll gladly offer a drink to you.
Mail-me before (in french in the title because of spam), you get my adress in my profil.
She like to receive my E-mail ! I saw her this evening and we spoke together. That was not the great and beautiful love discussion, but i loved that. She said she like my mails because she knows she have something to read in is mailbox at the break time.
To continue, she adds there is really good poems i wrote. And i know his favorite is one who speak about a train travel i made and the dream i have of a girl (she) who lives in the abbaye of my life.
In addition to that, she has offered me a gift. It is a very very small book she get : Les fleurs du mal by Baudelaire (Great poetry)
And to finished, i see her again to my "pendaison de crémaillère" (it's the party we take when your home is ready to have gests) And we will speak together again.
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