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aspectre appears to be correct. I'm assuming she left because she felt her or her husband had been insulted.
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Irami, if CT is leaving because of what was said on this forum, then I don't know that I am sympathetic to her leaving. As far as I could tell, nothing inappropriate was said to her or her husband on this forum.
But maybe I missed something. Dunno. If someone finds out what's going on, please do let us know. Maybe someone sent her a nasty email or something, in which case I am fully behind dishing out an internet ass kicking.
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I'm hoping not, but there are many postings under her member# which are missing today but were there a couple of days ago. As well as threads in which Jatraqueros address responses directly to Claudia, ClaudiaTherese, or CT, with no previous postings by CT still remaining in the thread.
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Well, it would be too hard to find and erase all those past posts...easier just to do the most recent.
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I don't understand. If CT was upset wouldn't she say something? And her hubby was getting all kinds of great welcomes in his thread where he unnecessarily apologized for HIS snippy attitude in some other thread.
I'm just perplexed by a reaction this sudden and this drastic. I mean, how many people have gotten angry here and systematically started deleting their posts? That just doesn't sound like CT.
And I'll be really upset if she does leave. She was one of the first people to welcome me here.. If she goes, it just won't be Hatrack for me anymore.
I wonder if maybe she just realized (with her husband's help) that she was spending too much time here???
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It can be very difficult to have an unpopular view here. Some people get personal, and some people take things personally that aren't meant that way.
It was probably a combination of time and emotional involvement that they decided was best spent elsewhere.
She should do what is best for her, but I am sad to see all the posts deleted.
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Some people feel it is too attention grabbing to post a goodbye thread, and they simply leave. Some people are irritated by the impersonal "Sorry you are leaving" remarks when they know that within a short time they will probably be forgotten.
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You know, it doesn't seem like CT to leave without saying something. I could see her fading out for awhile--all of us who have been here for awhile do that from time to time--but to delete her posts from a bunch of threads and just disappear? Seems odd. Really odd.
Tom? Christy? You guys hang out with CT in real life--any idea what's going on?
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I value CT's posts greatly. I wish I had said so out loud. Claudia-Therese, if you're listening or lurking, please don't go away. You are important to us.
I don't know you in person. I wish I did.
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Did I miss something? I thought everything was going to be OK.... so many people were saying nice things about her husband, wanting him to come back.... I wish I understood what happened. I can't imagine Hatrack without Sara. Posts: 7050 | Registered: Feb 2004
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Me either. Well, no, I can. None of us are here permenantly, and I've seen a lot of people that I thought of as fixtures of Hatrack disappear. I never like it when it happens, but what can you do.
One thing though--I feel like I know Sara pretty well, for a person I've never actually met, and one of the things that I respect about her is her finely tuned ability to sense what needs to be done, and to then do it. If she has decided to leave I can't help but think that it must be the right thing for her to do, difficult as it may be for us to wrap our minds around. I'll miss her presence here, but I completely support her if she has decided that leaving is the thing to do.
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That is a good point, Noemon. Her absence at the moment may have to do with loyalty to David, and I respect that. CT is very loyal.
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And wise. You're right that it may be a loyalty issue. The other day she was saying something about the importance of recognizing the things that could drive a wedge between onesself and one's partner. If she saw Hatrack as a potential wedge, she was wise to leave.
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Well, I will miss her well thought out posts, and her wonderful generous nature.
I hope it isn't permenante, but one way or another it seems like it was an overeaction...if this is what really happened.
When I left for work it looked as if it was all cool, even with the people who were most offended. I was looking forward to discussing his views with him, once the uproar had settled down a bit.
One of the best things about Hatrack is, IMO, the fact that so many of us here are from different walks of life, and even though we disagree on issues, sometimes violently so, most of us halfle it pretty well. I have even seen some people start out here as semi-trolls, but come around in the end, and that is a first for any place on-line that I have visited.
I thought CT understood (and liked) that about Hatrack too.
I really hope you change your mind and explain why you did this, is it is something you did yourself.
And I know I am not the only one who will miss you...
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You know, this makes me realize how tenuous our relationships really are. If my computer didn't work tomorrow, I'd never hear from a large percentage of you again.
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Well, even if he is, I think he's unlikely to respond, for two reasons--first, Tom is kind of like a cat, in that the more you want him to respond to you, the less likely he is to do so. Second (and much more seriously), since CT has deleted her posts and set her email to block incoming messages, I can only assume that she would also ask her real life friends not to discuss with us what's going on--she's making it very clear that that isn't something that she wants to have shared.
It's sad, but I think that all we can do is let her go, and hope that at some point she chooses to return.
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What, you think I'm kidding? I've been here damn near five years (pardon the language, but I'm feeling pretty strong about this right now) and there are few people I've found as consistently good, witty, nice, willng to listen, and flat-out brilliant as CT. Meeting her in person (granted, that was a couple years ago) was phenomenal. Words fail me. I am truly saddened by this news.
I hope she (and misterboy, though I haven't had the opportunity to get to know him at all, which might just set off another diatribe, but I'll spare you ) returns when she's ready to face all of us again. Hatrackers can be a daunting bunch, as well we all know. I hope things are alright, and I hope they get better.
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I feel pretty bad, actually. It's not very long ago that I asked CT to help out a friend of mine with a medical opinion/recommendation, and I've given nothing back but breathless flirting and endless compliments which, while true, are diluted by their sheer volume. Gawd.
Come to think on it, what have any of us done for her? Jesus, we're a bunch of ingrates.
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