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A friend of mine has two parents. One is horribly and abusive, the other is sweet and kind and does everything she can for her kids, including protect them.
The mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. Just found out she might have a year left of her life.
There's more.
I have an eight year old client that was just diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor. It's growing fast. He's already lost most of the use of the left side of his body.
wtf?
This is the unfairness of life that makes no sense at all. Why is the good parent dying and leaving my friend with the crap parent? Why is this eight year old kid getting stuck with this?
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Don't feel sorry for ME. It's this kid and my friend's mom and my friend and the kid's family...
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A guy who is a reporter for the LDS Church News who works in the building with me and I socialize with regularly lost his wife to cancer about a year ago. Last weekend, he lost his oldest son in a car accident.
I feel horrible for him, but he's doing remarkably well, considering.
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Mac, what can I say? The universe ISN'T fair. There is clearly no justice in this life -- despite, say, claims made by Ryan Hart -- and you and I won't know until we die whether there's justice in the next.
Entropy is an inexorable force of nature. All we can do is build little grass baskets up against the tide, and remember that being alive is, for the most part, actually pretty enjoyable.
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Look Tom, I'm a professional pessimist, and you need to cut down on the cynic juice. Seriously, I think you're a great guy and all, but your comment pretty near wrecked my day
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And you are apparently in the business of making snide remarks.
I meant validation in the clinical sense--the kind where you find the strengths in clients and situations and point them out. I also meant it as a double meaning for the connotation of validation.
So throw some more snide remarks.
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Well, if you want to go the religious approach, if the good woman passes away, she'll likely go on to heaven, while the abusive one still gets a chance to redeem herself. In contrast, if the abusive one were dying now, she wouldn't get that chance and might be condemned for eternity.
That is part of the idea behind Christianity, right - that death shouldn't be considered horrible if you are going on to heaven?
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Mack, for what it's worth I've thought about the same things but based upon different situations.
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well, i don't believe life ends when we die, and i don't think this part of our existence is where the justice comes into play.
thankfully, there are people that, despite all the injustice, all the pain, all the ugliness- are willing to thrust their hand through the darkness and help those around them.
i still have hope.
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