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Posted by lehollis (Member # 2883) on :
 
EDIT: I added some bold text below, hoping to clarify my meaning a little.

Sometime ago, I saw someone post that they needed cheerleaders for their WIP, and specifically didn't want critiquers. My first thought was that it was kind of useless, but their next statement made sense: that they just needed help getting through the WiP so they'd have something to feed the critters.

I realized a couple of things from this.

First, he or she was right in a sense. Second, I don't have cheerleaders. My wife used to read my work, but she doesn't seem as enthusiastic about it--hopefully it's not THAT bad

About the same moment, I realized that I'm more likely to write if I know someone will read it.

So, I think cheerleaders are important. To me, though, a cheerleader is: People who read and may offer some feedback even if it is criticism (especially on the big stuff), but are generally encouraging and supportive in their tone--who seem to enjoy the stuff I write.

I guess this means there are two kinds of (pre-publishing) readers: cheerleaders and critiquers.

(I'm sure it could be broken up more.)

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Posted by ChrisOwens (Member # 1955) on :
 
I could wear a short skirt with the Hatrack colors, but I'd doubt that would be encouraging to anybody--and forget about me doing a cartwheel.

 
Posted by J (Member # 2197) on :
 
I never really thought about it before, but you're right. My wife is both. She reads what I write and gives it to me straight. When she doesn't like it, it's very discouraging (I mean, if a man's own wife tells him it's bad . . .) but when she does like it, and she compliments the writing or the story or the characters, I know she means it, and it's very, very encouraging.
 
Posted by Matt Lust (Member # 3031) on :
 
I think that those who want cheerleaders desire validation.

They think they have something magical going as they write whatever it is they're writing. If others challenge them the magic will be gone and Tinker Bell will die.

So Clap if you believe in fairies

Of course if Tinker Bell dies, it will be the critiquers fault.

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Posted by lehollis (Member # 2883) on :
 
I completely disagree, Matt. There's a difference between those who benefit from a encouragement and support, and those who need validation. You seem to be talking about something altogether different and lumping it all together. To benefit from encouragement and support is merely being human.
 
Posted by Matt Lust (Member # 3031) on :
 
It maybe human but it does not good writing make.
 
Posted by lehollis (Member # 2883) on :
 
In what way does encouragement and support not make good writing? I don't see what you are saying?
 
Posted by Matt Lust (Member # 3031) on :
 
To me critiquing is not an necessarily evil or bad thing or simply nit picking.

Nor do critiques need be negative.

In fact I see every magazine editor as a critiquer of sorts. If they buy your work they have given it a good critique, if they reject they gave it a negative critique.

J's wife strikes me as an honest critquer, not a cheerleader.


Cheerleading, in my opinion, is never more than the "go team go!" and "Clap if you believe in fairies" kind of unadulterated encouragement
 


Posted by Matt Lust (Member # 3031) on :
 
Moreover, Cheerleading readers are like your dog. He'll never leave you but he'll never tell you to stop using so many passive verbs.

Good Honest critiquers are helpful tools that should be cherished.
 


Posted by lehollis (Member # 2883) on :
 
That's not what I'm talking about.

First, I never said critiquing was unnecessary, evil or in any way wrong. That isn't my opinion, and I don't see anything in my original post that described that, so I don't know why you think that has anything to do with it. Critiquing is absolutely necessary, and its more than just nitpicking.

Second, I'm not referring to blindness or dishonesty. If a piece flat out sucks, a cheerleader isn't going to lie and say its great. If they see a problem, they'll point it out, but they aren't meticulously nitpicking--they aren't there for a detailed critique. I don't think this kind of feedback is vital, unless maybe for some reason one lacks critiquers, but I think it can be beneficial.

The point of my post is that there can be a place for both kinds of feedback. I never said one was better, or one was negative or anything like that.
 


Posted by lehollis (Member # 2883) on :
 
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Moreover, Cheerleading readers are like your dog. He'll never leave you but he'll never tell you to stop using so many passive verbs.

I completely disagree with that, too. He WILL tell you if something doesn't work. (And honest and dishonesty has nothing to do with what I'm talking about.)

It's obvious we're talking about two different things, so I'm done with this.

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Posted by dee_boncci (Member # 2733) on :
 
I don't know about cheerleading per se, but there is as much value in commenting (specifically) on the good aspects of a bit of writing as the bad ones.

Myself, I can get by with little or no cheerleading (good thing, too )


 


Posted by Snorri Sturluson (Member # 5807) on :
 
There is a reason that sports teams have cheerleaders; if they were absolutely useless, few teams would spend the resources. Of course, there is also a reason that sports teams have a coach. It is the coach's job to look at the game and tell the team how to correct the flaws, how to avoid the mistakes, and how to turn mediocrity into something great.

A good critiquer is like a good coach; ultimately he is the one who'll help you become a great writer. The cheerleader, however, is the one that helps keep the team's spirits up enough to complete the game. Without a cheerleader, there might be no game and thus the coach's critiques are incomplete.

Can a writer get by without a cheerleader? Sure (just as many sports get by without cheerleaders). But do cheerleaders hurt? Only if you don't have a coach. For some of us, writing is like golf; cheers would be more distracting than anything else. Yet, for some of us writing is like football; the only way you'll run headlong into the offensive line (or writer's block) again and again until you break through is if you feel that someone, at least, thinks you can do it.

~Joel
 


Posted by Matt Lust (Member # 3031) on :
 
I'm definitely more of a 'golfer', though I prefer tennis
 
Posted by I am destiny on :
 
I have both cheerleaders and critiquers. I definately agree that both are necessary. I have a line editor and then I have two content editors outside my writers group. The one content edior I can go to and say what did you think about this? and she is honest and I can discus things with her w/o the critique. The other is much more picky she is very good at seeing holes and things that a reader would see as inconsistent. I can go to either and get feedback and encouragement. But if I need a boost on a bad writiing day or a I was thinking about this I go to my cheerleader first. If I need a I was thinking about changing this to this i go to my critiquer. My line editor I give her the MS and a few red pens and tell her to go to town....


Now my writers group I expect brutal honesty and I get it. I was told just a few days ago that with the exception of a few grammar things, the content was good; the slow parts didnt bore her and the pacing was well done. That the dialogue vs. setting vs. plot was excellent. So... I think that they are working well for me.

Those who don't have them... I strongly suggest get a group or some readers that will be honest, even brutally if needed. It has helped me so much, even if I have had my feelings stepped on...

~Destiny
 


Posted by Robert Nowall (Member # 2764) on :
 
I like my ego stroked as well as the next guy...but I'm also actively looking to improve my work. I'll take a good critique any day---sure, it'll hurt, but what does that matter?

(And sure, I'll react badly from time to time---I always reserve the right to comment on the comments---but I'll try to keep the obscenities and flame wars to myself.)
 


Posted by InarticulateBabbler (Member # 4849) on :
 
In your analogy, Snorri Sturluson, I couldn't help thinking: If a critiquer is like a coach, a cheerleader would really be like...a publicist/advetising-sales.

Cheerleader don't fuel the teams, they fuel the crowds.


lehollis, I can see what Matt Lust is saying. Cheerleaders aren't honest. The don't go on the field, do a few cartwheels, and yell "We suck!" if it's true.

That said, I can see the need to also point out "positives" in critiques, as well as "negatives". The last few that I have done, I have tried to employ this method. Critique shouldn't mean criticize, it should be a form of trying to HELP the writer. Maybe, lehollis, by your definition, you mean that a fully-rounded critiquer should not only identify what he/she has a problem with, but also what he/she likes. And, in this rewording lehollis is right: you can benefit from both. You can benefit from what sells/hooks in your prose, as much as what detracts from it.

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Posted by JeanneT (Member # 5709) on :
 
I think a totally negative critique is basically dishonest, unless there really was nothing in the work that was worthwhile.

There are a lot of critiquers who take pride in doing nothing but tearing other writers down. They aren't really trying to help.

A good and honest critiquer will tell you what you are doing well so that you know and can keep on doing that. If they don't say your dialogue is excellent you might go in and change if for the worse, for that matter.

At the same time they will tell you that you have way too much dependence on adverbs and need to look for stronger verbs. Or that you are still using too many passive constructions. Then you can work on what actually needs work.

Obviously my own opinion, which incidentally critiques are also. I have yet to meet a critiquer who is god or always right.

Edit: I also think that most of us can use a cheerleader or two in our lives. But that is quite a different role and has nothing to do with critiquing. If I had no one who was pure and simple cheering for me I would be sad.

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Posted by Snorri Sturluson (Member # 5807) on :
 
Agreed. A good critiquer will point out both what a writer does right and what a writer does poorly; however, it is by far easier to point out what is wrong than what is right. This is particularly true in writing since, when a writer does something right, it should be nearly invisible.

To offer an example, a critiquer might tell a writer that he used too many different words for "said" (falling into the trap of "Said" Bookism). However, if a writer did not do that, then what will a critiquer say?

This isn't to say that a critiquer will have nothing good to say, but that the topics that a writer might be commended on are fewer than the topics that the same writer might be condemned for. We can only expect there to be an uneven amount of comments (even for the best of writers).

I am reminded of Scott Kurtz (a fairly well known cartoonist) and his mother. Sometimes, even writers just need someone who believes in them. I would say that writing a book, like war, is succeeds or fails based on morale.

InarticulateBabbler, while one can only stretch an analogy so far before it breaks…

Cheerleaders fuel the crowd but the crowd fuels the team. It isn't like the Cheerleaders are introducing the team to new markets or creating new fans of the team; the people who are cheering already love the team, they just need a bit of a boost to actually get going.

~Joel

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Posted by JeanneT (Member # 5709) on :
 
The critiquer might say that their diaglogue technique was well handled. But, I must admit that you're right that the positives can be hard to find. I did a critique yesterday on a novel chapter -- something I do quite a lot of -- and I sat on it for half a day trying to find some positives to say. I was NOT going to post a critique that was purely negatives. Eventually I was able to see some of the positives in the work, but it took longer than that list of things I thought were wrong.

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Posted by kings_falcon (Member # 3261) on :
 
I think you need both. You need someone who can say - WOW! You just broke the 50K word mark? Great Job! You also need someone who says - 50K great but only 30K count because . . .

I think the last is more helpful for me but there is definate value in the first.

We're getting hung up on terms. "Cheerleaders" for me are the people who get you past the - I don't wanna' stage. They are the sometimes required pat on the back. While a "cheerleader" probably won't say "this sucks" - you'll likely get something on the achievement. "Geez, 200K words. That's awesome."


I think Lehollis is talking more about what OSC refers to as an "educated reader" or something like that, I don't have the book here. That is someone who is going to give you a pat on the back while pointing out what parts they stumbled over. J's wife seems to fall into this group.

Critquers, for me, are the next step in the process. People who are going to get nitpicky and ask me questions about what doesn't make sense or say - I really would like an answer to this SOON. Sometimes the postives don't get pointed out as much but the holes do.

quote:
I have yet to meet a critiquer who is god or always right
True. All we can give is feedback. As long as the purpose is to help, there is value in it.



 


Posted by JeanneT (Member # 5709) on :
 
quote:
Critquers, for me, are the next step in the process. People who are going to get nitpicky and ask me questions about what doesn't make sense or say - I really would like an answer to this SOON. Sometimes the postives don't get pointed out as much but the holes do.

I disagree. The critiquer is nothing but an educated reader and has no right to demand anything -- certainly not soon.

They are not my editor. They are not my agent. They are simply reading and giving an opinion--one that I may or may not agree with and will probably repay by giving my opinion of their work.

If they get snippy and start demanding that I do it their way, much less do it their way soon, they won't crit my work again or get a return crit.

Edit: And I will repeat my opinion that it is as important to me as a writer to know what IS working as it is to me to know what is NOT working. I need to know both to effectively edit my work.

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Posted by Matt Lust (Member # 3031) on :
 
As always IAB is thorough in his analysis and has struck at the core.

I meant to say that in my opinion, well rounded critiques should accomplish all the High-fiving one needs.



 


Posted by lehollis (Member # 2883) on :
 
quote:
I disagree. The critiquer is nothing but an educated reader and has no right to demand anything -- certainly not soon.

They are not my editor. They are not my agent. They are simply reading and giving an opinion--one that I may or may not agree with and will probably repay by giving my opinion of their work.

If they get snippy and start demanding that I do it their way, much less do it their way soon, they won't crit my work again or get a return crit.


Actually, I don't think kings_falcon meant soon chronologically, nor a demand. If my assumption is correct, I think she meant that as a reader he needs to know about something soon within the text. I see, "I need to know about _____ soon" frequently in F&F. I don't think she's saying he needs an actual reply to a question from the author soon.

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Posted by Matt Lust (Member # 3031) on :
 
Yeah I must admit I'm quite guilty of saying "soon"

What i mean is soon in the story.
Sometimes sooner is better sometimes not. But sooner is often better for getting the reader hooked and staying hooked. I always critique for hook harder than when I am reading a book or short story for pleasure.


For example, When I say i need to know about XX "soon" I'm asking for some direct/summary narration or even dialog to tell me within a few lines where/what/who XX is in greater detail than has been included in the first 13.

Sometimes I want soon to be the first 13 but oft times if the first 13 is well written and compelling soon can be delayed
 


Posted by nitewriter (Member # 3214) on :
 
Maybe if someone really needs a "cheerleader" they are not really a writer at heart. There are just too many examples of a writer who has succeeded despite relentless criticism and rejection. What it all boils down to is unwavering faith in your own talent and ability as a writer. All the "cheerleading" in the world will not make someone a writer. The lack of a "cheerleader" will not stop someone determined to be a writer.
 
Posted by debhoag (Member # 5493) on :
 
I don't think it's fair to ask someone to spend their time and energy reading, and then telling them exactly what you want to hear and insisting that they give you nothing else. If someone goes to the trouble to read what I've got, why would I not b e willing to let them tell me what they think? I understand that praise is nice, and I like to get my share, too, but when someone says to me, please read my stuff, and then don't point out anything that looks like a mistake, anything confusing, or anything that doesn't work. It's not worth the trouble to read. I can just send back some generic email that says "Great job!" and get back to my own stuff.
 
Posted by lehollis (Member # 2883) on :
 
I'm sorry, everyone. I made a mistake. I used the word cheerleader, and it's obvious to me I shouldn't have. It conveys the wrong idea, and I assumed reader would see past the word to the definition I was trying to express. The word cheerleader got me thinking about all this, so I used that word here to write about my thoughts.

I was negative towards the idea of a cheerleader too, until I thought about it and created my own writing-based definition of the concept. I thought a cheerleader was pointless, too, until I found my own definition.

Somehow, the word cheerleader conjures up the idea of someone who lies, who says only what you want to hear, who fakes it. Once again, that isn't what I'm saying.

It also conjures up the idea of need. I'm not talking about need. That's far from it, and I'd doubt the potential of a writer who needed a cheerleader in the classic sense, too.

This is what I'm saying: sometimes, positive feedback helps as much as nitpicking. Sometimes, the honest feedback of someone who has a sincere personal interest in your success can help you out as much as a detailed critique. Sometimes, the tone and sincerity of the feedback makes a difference.

Often, this positive feedback-giver gives feedback on the level of a reader. They may also give feedback on the level of a critiquer. They can be both. Often, they are. Rather than a reader, a critiquer seems to give feedback on the level of an editor. (Ultimately, we'd like to have more readers than we have editors, so a reader's opinion can be valuable, too.)

I don't know if that's the same as OSC's Educated Reader. Maybe it is.

I have one person that fits this positive feedback-giver category, and she only recently began reading my work. She reads it because she came across some of my writing, said she enjoyed it and asked to read more.

Like I said, I've only had a little feedback from her, so far. Here's the thing: her feedback was the same as the critiquers feedback. She had one line saying she liked it, same as many of the critiquers, and a 140 words of negative things to say, or "Suggestions." The things she didn’t like, or confused her, were the same things most of the critiquers didn't like. She's a reader, not an editor--she doesn't write herself even--but her feedback was the same, just as valuable as a critiquers. Not lies. Not something I needed. Not faked, insincere or "what I want to hear."

What was the difference? The tone. She's a friend, not a colleague. She has a personal, sincere investment in my success as a writer, the way a friend would.

I just feel there are different kinds of feedback, different levels. They aim at different things, but they can all be valuable to me. Just because someone isn't a writer, doesn't mean their feedback is useless to me. I don't need different levels, but they can help if they're available.

If they're lying, insincere or faking it, they are useless.

So, again, I'm sorry I started this thread off with the wrong word. I'll try to be more careful in my selection in the future.

PS. And I am certainly NOT suggesting that any writer should ask someone to tell them only what they want to hear, or to curb their feedback to just the positive kind. Why would I ask for that? It doesn't make sense to me. That would be the apex of uselessness to me.

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Posted by djvdakota (Member # 2002) on :
 
IMO, leohollis, this whole thread has been riddled with 'fine' examples of reading but failing to understand. And you're certainly not the one to blame.

Anyone with two brain cells to rub together got your point (among others), understood it, and either agreed or disagreed RESPECTFULLY.


 


Posted by InarticulateBabbler (Member # 4849) on :
 
lehollis, as a small sidenote: kings_falcon is a woman.

 
Posted by lehollis (Member # 2883) on :
 
Thank you, IB. My apologies to kings_falcon. I edited the post.
 
Posted by kings_falcon (Member # 3261) on :
 
Not problem. It's the name thing. Since it's "king's" everone assumes that means I'm a he. Funny that.

Lehollis hit was I was trying to express when I said "People who are going to get nitpicky and ask me questions about what doesn't make sense or say - I really would like an answer to this SOON."

An example would be if an unfamilar an organization is referenced. I probably don't need to know what it does within the first 13 but I'd want to have the reference explained soon and will probably leave feedback to that end.

A crit doesn't demand anything really. It tells the writer what stumbling blocks the Critter had. Even where people rephrase or offer alternate wording - for most of us here it isn't really "demanding (you) do it thier way" - sometimes it is eaiser to show you what we mean rather than express it in another manner.

I don't think anyone here is intentionally snippy. But then tone is hard to convey in text.

BTW - I understood what you meant by "cheerleader." I think it was the image of Chris in a skirt that threw everyone off.



 


Posted by Hunter (Member # 4991) on :
 
I think part of the confusion of the use of cheerleaders is how they are perceived elsewhere. I'm not writing about sports. There are cheerleaders galore in fanfic. You click on 'reviews' for a fanfic, and all it is, is a list of people saying, "Write more, Update soon!" They offer electronic cookies and death threats for the writer to update. Talk about ego stroking...

The only problem with this is if the writing stinks, and you try to give the writer a few suggestions like, "Paragraph breaks would help break this up." Or "Maybe put quotation marks around the dialogue." You get flamed by the rabid cheerleaders, and the writer ignores you because fifty other people said she's better than J.K. Rowling and J.R.R. Tolkien rolled into one. As a side-effect, the authors have a tendency of never letting a story. END.

Having a reader, someone who's a possibly a fan, give feedback is cool (and I think their feedback is just as valid as any editor's), but I don't really see how this person is a 'cheerleader'. The reader isn't encouraging you to write more. But the idea that there is someone willing to read your work as soon as you're ready is highly alluring and encouraging, but I think cheerleader is a misleading title for this person. Maybe enthusiatic reader? Honest fan?

Editted to remove redundant sentence.

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Posted by nitewriter (Member # 3214) on :
 
Hunter, I've never heard of fanfic, but the details you give about it are amusing - and also rather sad. Those people can't be serious about writing - they sound very much like a part of the "feel good" crowd that seems to have the goal of nothing but feeling good about themselves. The word "dilettante" comes to mind. I've been in a few writing groups like that. People would almost fall all over themselves doling out compliments to any and all work submitted. I made the mistake once by pointing out why a story would not fly because of the contradictions it had. I don't have to tell you how welcome I was after that. These were people who for the most part could not write their way out of a paper bag - and attending such groups will only keep them from improving. Then again, maybe the strokes were enough.
 
Posted by debhoag (Member # 5493) on :
 
I think we're all talking about different things.
1) the person who only gives positive feedback
2) the fan
3) the fanatic
4) kind crit readers who manage to work positive as well as negative into their crits
and every shade in between. My understanding of the original posts was that we were discussing whether or not a writer benefits from someone who gives the reader ego strokes and nothing else. I think we all like ego strokes, but is it appropriate to ask for (or demand) this at a site which is dedicated to actually critting work?

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Posted by lehollis (Member # 2883) on :
 
Hunter, I didn't know that about fanfic. I've never read it, but I can see how it can taint the meaning here. I'm sure it has lots of the connotation from non-sports references elsewhere, too. Thanks for sharing that.

It was plainly a bad choice of a word here. Lesson learned

No worries from my end on any of this, by the way--just don't like to be misunderstood.

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Posted by Robert Nowall (Member # 2764) on :
 
I've written fanfic---do a search of my name if you want to find any of it---and I found the experience valid. I found a lot of the stories as interesting as anything written for publication. After the utter silence on my work that I got attempting to write-and-sell, I found the feedback I eventually got---negative as well as positive---gratifying.

And after awhile, I was ready to return to so-called "real writing," refreshed and reaffirmed in my opinion of myself as a writer.
 


Posted by Hunter (Member # 4991) on :
 
Robert,

I recall on Miss Snark or Evil Editor an open discussion of the merits of fanfic. Basically, everyone agreed that they are nice easy ways to excercise your skills. You have premade characters and a well defined pre-existing world to play with. All you have to worry about is the plot. It can take a lot of pressure off the writer and let him ease back into the writing biz or take a break from his current project.

And yes, I've written fanfic too. I'm not saying how to find it because it ain't that good.
 


Posted by JeffBarton (Member # 5693) on :
 
Another self-confessed fanfic writer here. It was good practice - all 800,000 words of it - up to a point. The problem is the lack of critical (meaning constructive) feedback and the lack of selectivity. My website and a couple of others are full of my stuff - no rejection slips. All that practice doing it wrong didn't help me any.
 
Posted by JeanneT (Member # 5709) on :
 
debhoag, I don't understand why you are so insistent that giving positive as well as negative feedback is giving "ego strokes."

Now I happen to think that ego strokes can be a good thing, but it isn't what is being discussed. That isn't a criters job. But if all a criter can do is tear the writer down, as far as I'm concerned they aren't doing a good critique.

The definition of a critique is NOT to list everything wrong with a work (and preferably have fun doing it).

A critique is supposed to be a detailed evaluation of the work. An evaluation to be true does not say only the negative unless negative is all that the work has. Well, I've seen a few of those and they make being kind difficult, since I don't give crits to hurt people, but to try to help. If there isn't anything positive to be said, then so be it. But if there is at least something positive, then it should be mentioned.

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Posted by debhoag (Member # 5493) on :
 
To reiterate my previous post:

"My understanding of the original posts was that we were discussing whether or not a writer benefits from someone who gives the reader ego strokes and nothing else. I think we all like ego strokes, but is it appropriate to ask for (or demand) this at a site which is dedicated to actually critting work?"

My comment was about people who want to control the content of the crit, and demand only certain types of responses. I'm not sure why that would imply that I don't tell people that I like their work when I do. And I think a number of people here could attest to this. I do think that if the writer tells me before hand that they only want praise, or they don't want to know about typos, inconsistencies or other issues, that it is a waste of my time to read it. I can just email back what they are telling me they want to hear, and move on to someone I can have a real and genuine writing experience with. Works for me.
 


Posted by lehollis (Member # 2883) on :
 
quote:
"My understanding of the original posts was that we were discussing whether or not a writer benefits from someone who gives the reader ego strokes and nothing else. I think we all like ego strokes, but is it appropriate to ask for (or demand) this at a site which is dedicated to actually critting work?"

I don't think anyone here wants that. I agree it seems like a worthless thing to do. I'd never encourage anyone to do that--and my original post wasn't encouraging that. I'm sorry if it seemed that way.

I explained where I got the idea. That person may have meant something like what you explain above. I never asked them. But I took what they said and turned it into my idea, which is not about what you explain here. When I explained the history of this thought in my experience, it may have seemed I was saying that--so sorry for misleading the conversation.

Anyway, if someone does feel that is a good idea, they're free to speak up. Personally, I think we're all in agreement that that would be a waste, though. I could be wrong.
 


Posted by debhoag (Member # 5493) on :
 
And i will be the first the acknowledge that I take tangents at times. But to have words put in my mouth, or to have someone deliberately misrepresent what I've said is aggressive and distasteful to me. Yuck!
 
Posted by JeanneT (Member # 5709) on :
 
I did not try to put words in your mouth OR try to misrepresent what you said. From reading your post, that seemed to me to be what you were saying. I get nothing from putting words in your mouth, and have no reason to pick an argument with you. If that is not what you are saying, you certainly are free to correct my impression.

Edit: But at the end of every post you go back to discussing how if someone told you they only wanted to hear the positive, you wouldn't bother as though that were the subject and it is not. So I keep ending up with the impression that you are saying that you don't want to have to bother with pointing out the positive as well as the negative.

If this isn't what you are saying, then I'm sorry that is the impression I'm getting. But I'm getting it from you, not putting it in your mouth.

Obviously, a crit that only gave the positive or lied and said things that needed work didn't would be dishonest. No one ever said otherwise.

Edit: Back to the original topic of giving both the negative and the positive in critiques, I think part of the problem is that gradually critique has come to be associated in people's minds with only saying the negative. I try to think of them as a "review" rather than a critique. That helps me keep in mind that it is supposed to give both sides.

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Posted by debhoag (Member # 5493) on :
 
I said:

I don't think it's fair to ask someone to spend their time and energy reading, and then telling them exactly what you want to hear and insisting that they give you nothing else.

You said:
debhoag, I don't understand why you are so insistent that giving positive as well as negative feedback is giving "ego strokes."

I call it like I see it. Leave me alone, Jeane. Go rip on someone else
 


Posted by hoptoad (Member # 2145) on :
 
confession: I know enough about myself to understand that I need people people around who say: 'cool, what happens next?'

maybe just me

 


Posted by debhoag (Member # 5493) on :
 
Me too, hoptoad. I hope I didn't give anybody the impression I don't enjoy being slavishly adored!
 
Posted by JeanneT (Member # 5709) on :
 
Rip someone else? I BEG your pardon? I didn't rip you.

If anything, the contrary. You made a personal attack in saying I was "ripping you," while I courteously said I disagreed with something you seemed to be stating. Disagreeing with you is "ripping" you? Okey dokey, if you say so.

Let's not get into personal attacks here.

Nor, thank you very much, do I occasionally post on this forum to rip anyone. The last I knew a polite difference of opinion is perfectly acceptable.

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Posted by dee_boncci (Member # 2733) on :
 
I think it's time for the KDW standard "Please Ignore Each Other" post.
 
Posted by debhoag (Member # 5493) on :
 
I've already started, dee boncci!
Really, Jeanne, stop addressing me. I've already asked you once.

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Posted by JeanneT (Member # 5709) on :
 
That's fine, deb. If YOU will stop addressing me, I'll be more than happy to not address you further. There is nothing more to be said in this discussion. I had no intention of posting further in this thread until you had to do some "please don't address me further" stuff. *shrug*

Since you seem to find courtesy such a difficult concept, I would much appreciate your leaving me alone. Believe me, I'll be more than happy to never speak to you again.

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Posted by DeepDreamer (Member # 5337) on :
 
I'm with hoptoad. There's a time in the writing process when I really need people who encourage me to keep going, people who believe I'm a good writer, regardless of the faults in the story. Those people aren't always the toughest critiquers. They don't need to be. Good critiquers are important too though.

It's not really a matter of which one is more important. It's not a matter of "If you need cheerleaders you must not be a good writer; good writers can succeed without them." Some writers need them, some don't. I'm one of the ones who do. Does that make me a bad writer? No. I just sometimes need someone to re-emphasise my worth as a writer. That's the cheerleader's role - to help me be the best writer I can be. But a critiquer's role is to make sure my writing is the best it can be - to help me make my writing the best it can be.


Sidenote - I wrote fanfic before I started writing my own thing.

Ok, admittedly, it was only 3 and a half chapters of fanfic, but still. Fanfic is a decent way to start out. You get encouragement to continue and finish, it's a good way to get into the writing habit. You can learn from the writing process. Sure, a lot of the comments aren't worth much as critique. But sometimes, especially when first starting out, that's what you need to hear - less criticism, more encouragement just to keep going. Once you turn to writing seriously, with the intent of getting published, that's when you need good, solid constructive criticism the most.

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Posted by Pyre Dynasty (Member # 1947) on :
 
In order to ignore someone one should not even read their posts, not insist that they stop talking to you. Of course you must forget that they exist too so you don't mention them in your posts. but you shouldn't know if they were. This is something that has been mandated in the past, (The one I remember was, I think, HSO and Survivor, but they said they play nice after that so it didn't go into affect. I don't know if there are any ignore orders running at the moment. but this looks like a candidate.)
 


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