Ok. Have a couple of really good friends (twins) who I’ve known for probably over ten years from my college church group. Their father passed away over the weekend. The funeral is Thursday and I’m looking at sending flowers. So some others from our old college group who go to my church is talking about going in together on flowers. This isn’t looked down on or anything by going in together is it? I guess I’m leaning to its ok and that we could probably get something a little nicer that would have a live plant in it that they could keep. Thoughts? Opinions? Concerns?
Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
Jay, That is completely acceptable, nothing wrong with it at all. Peple do it all the time, and it is a very nice gesture.
Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
It's considered very appropriate, and is usually much appreciated.
Posted by Ela (Member # 1365) on :
I agree. My co-workers chipped in and sent a plant when my step-dad died, and we thought it was a very nice thing for them to do.
Posted by Elizabeth (Member # 5218) on :
I think it is fine to go in on flowers, Jay, and a live plant is nice. You might think about a perrenial plant that they could plant in the ground, even a small tree, as a memorial, and as something different.
Please, whatever you do, no gladiolus!!
Also, check and make sure they want flowers. Many people ask, instead, for a donation in the person's name.
Posted by Jay (Member # 5786) on :
True. I guess I was just unsure if they would think less that all of us went in together instead of getting something from each of us. Since we’re all sort of good friends. I went ahead sent a card to their house too.
Well, I didn’t actually see it, but it sounds good. The one shop had to call it in to the other town. I think it was a peace lily that is blooming and there are two of them in a peanut basket. I guess the peanut is the shape of the basket and was the suggestion of the shop since the sons are twins and would make it so they would each have one. I guess. They’re also going to put the fresh cut plants in there too with ribbon or something and a card of course.
It was strange cause I called the funeral home this morning to get the times and they told me viewing on Wed funeral on Thursday. So that was what I told the florist. They called me back and said the viewing was on Wed. I thought ok, two days, but went ahead and called back to the funeral home. Of course they told me wrong and it was Tues viewing, Wed funeral. Glad I wasn’t some out of town relative who booked a flight for the wrong day. I asked if it had changed and the guy was like the info says here blah blah blah. I told him that they told me in the morning wrong then and he was still all about the info in front of him. I finally just told him just to make sure all the staff had the right info since I had got told wrong. Sort of annoying since I had emailed our group of buddies with the info already. Felt like a spammer sending out multiple emails. Once when we found out, once with the wrong funeral info, and once with the correct info.