My cousin, who turned fourteen last month, is dead. She died last night. Nobody is quite sure how yet, she was out with her friends instead of at home in bed.
Nobody in my family really knows what to do with themselves right now... My dad woke me up and told me, I almost slapped him and told him to stop messing with my mind... but it's true, it really is.
I... what?
[ November 27, 2004, 05:21 PM: Message edited by: Raia ]
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
Oh no! I'm so sorry, sweetie. Where is your aunt? (U.S.? Israel?)
*hughug*
Posted by IdemosthenesI (Member # 862) on :
(((Raia)))
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Posted by Da_Goat (Member # 5529) on :
Raia, I can't really express how sorry I am for you and your family. It's terrible when things like this happen, especially when you don't know what made them happen. If there's anything we can do to help, please let us know.
Posted by Raia (Member # 4700) on :
They're all in Israel. About a half hour from Jerusalem. My mom's there already.
Posted by Rappin' Ronnie Reagan (Member # 5626) on :
((((raia))))
Posted by Narnia (Member # 1071) on :
(((Shani))) I'm so sorry honey. I wish I could help you somehow. Posted by vwiggin (Member # 926) on :
((((raia))))
Posted by ReikoDemosthenes (Member # 6218) on :
oh my... ((((Raia))))
Posted by Tatiana (Member # 6776) on :
Raia, dear, I'm so sorry! <<<<<<<<<<<<Raia>>>>>>>>>>>>
Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
(((Raia)))
I am so sorry for you and your family.
I hope you find some answers to what she was doing and how she died.
Kwea
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Posted by Jaiden (Member # 2099) on :
Oi.
Posted by Eduardo_Sauron (Member # 5827) on :
Hang in there, Raia. I'm sorry you're going through all this.
(((Raia)))
Posted by Phanto (Member # 5897) on :
(((Raia)))
I'm sorry to hear this horrible news. All things in life must pass, it seems. Both the good and the bad.
(((Raia)))
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
((Raia))
I'm so sorry.
Posted by punwit (Member # 6388) on :
(((Raia))) I'm very sorry for your loss. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.
Posted by Mrs.M (Member # 2943) on :
Shani, I am so sorry.
Hamakom y'nahaim etkhem b'tokh sh'ar availai Tziyon ve Yerushalayim.
Posted by Grisha (Member # 6871) on :
((((Shani)))) I'm so sorry for your loss. Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
Posted by Derrell (Member # 6062) on :
(((Shani)))
Posted by Alcon (Member # 6645) on :
((((((((Shani))))))))))) I'm so sorry! (((Shani))))
Are you ok?
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(((((Shani))))) Posted by Telperion the Silver (Member # 6074) on :
GAH!!
((Raia))
Posted by dread pirate romany (Member # 6869) on :
Oh Raia... I am so sorry...Peace to your family.
Posted by signal (Member # 6828) on :
I'll be praying for you and your family. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to IM me.
(((Raia)))
Posted by FriendlyNeighborhoodWitch (Member # 6317) on :
Oh, Raia, that's absolutely aweful. We'll be thinking of you and your family.
And although I'm sure this smiley has been banned... Posted by ketchupqueen (Member # 6877) on :
I'm so sorry to hear that. Posted by larisse (Member # 2221) on :
Raia... I am so sorry for your family's loss. There is nothing I can say that will make you feel better right now, so I won't.
Just know that we are here for you.
{{{{{{{Raia and family}}}}}}}
Posted by CaySedai (Member # 6459) on :
My family is so sorry for your loss. Cayla (8) says she knows how you feel. She is still grieving for her great-great aunt who died last year at the age of 103.
I know it's not the same. I wish there was something we could do to make the pain lessen.
((((((Raia and family)))))
Posted by Raia (Member # 4700) on :
Thank you everyone...
The guy who was with her last night is at the police station... the problem is, he's a well-known delinquent around town. He's apparently lying through his teeth about what happened. But as far as we can figure out, she fell off the roof of a building. The only thing we don't know is how or why... we don't know if, for any reason, he *voice breaks* pushed her...
Posted by Anna (Member # 2582) on :
(((Raia))) I know it's little comfort for you, but I'm sorry. I'll be sending good vibes for you and your family too. *sigh* Sad day for Hatrack it seems.
Posted by Teshi (Member # 5024) on :
((Raia and Family))
Posted by TMedina (Member # 6649) on :
I'm sorry Raia - it's always difficult to lose someone, but because of stupid, possibly criminal acts?
That always makes it worse.
-Trevor
Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :
(((Raia))) I'm so sorry for your loss, love.
Posted by Ryuko (Member # 5125) on :
OH, Raia... (hugs)
I'm sorry, honey.
(((((Raia)))))
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Posted by imogen (Member # 5485) on :
(((Raia)))
I'm really sorry sweetie.
Best wishes to all of your family.
Posted by Ela (Member # 1365) on :
Raia, I am so sorry.
(((Raia)))
Posted by Dragon (Member # 3670) on :
(((((Raia)))))
I'm so sorry! It is always tragic when someone dies, but especially so when they are young...
Posted by JaneX (Member # 2026) on :
((((Raia))))
Posted by Morbo (Member # 5309) on :
How horrible! (((Raia))) Posted by Space Opera (Member # 6504) on :
Oh, honey, I'm so sorry. If there is anything I can do please let me know. I'll be thinking of you and your family. There just aren't words to say, but I hope this helps...if you were here right now I'd give you a big hug and just sit beside you and hold your hand.
space opera
Posted by Noemon (Member # 1115) on :
I'm so sorry this has happened in your life Raia. I hope you'll be able to get some concrete answers soon.
Posted by beverly (Member # 6246) on :
...a fall from a building!
That is so tragic and sad.
Posted by Ralphie (Member # 1565) on :
I'm very, very sorry Raia. Posted by TMedina (Member # 6649) on :
Noemon...
-Trevor
[ November 26, 2004, 02:01 AM: Message edited by: TMedina ]
Posted by Eaquae Legit (Member # 3063) on :
((Raia)) I hope you find your answers soon...
Posted by Raia (Member # 4700) on :
There are all sorts of stories and rumors skipping around the papers today... some say she killed herself, some say he pushed her, some say she fell. I don't know who to believe. The most common story is that she talked of suicide but didn't mean it, they drank some alcohol together, and it got out of control. But some also say that they drank, had some sort of sexual intercourse, and then she killed herself. Some people think that maybe she jumped because she was pregnant. I don't know WHAT to think, but it's all too horrible... nobody believes a single word the boy says. He claims that she stood on the window sill and asked him to push her. When he refused, she jumped. All the articles are in Hebrew, otherwise I'd post a link to an online one... but it's too horrible. It's all just so awful.
Posted by Anna (Member # 2582) on :
((((((((((Raia)))))))))) I'm so sorry I can't do anything else.
Posted by AvidReader (Member # 6007) on :
I'm sorry, Raia.
I wouldn't listen to the rumors. When my boyfriend was out of school while his brother was dying, I heard he moved to France. People who didn't know her well just want a good story. Unfortunately, no one ever thinks what that does to the people who loved her.
Posted by Anna (Member # 2582) on :
So so true. When I was in high school a guy had a heart attack, and he didn't die. The next day, everyone told that he has had too much heroïn and that he died.
Posted by Goody Scrivener (Member # 6742) on :
Gentle healing hugs to Raia and her entire family. Please let me know if I can do anything, my AIM name is in my profile and I'm usually connected.
Oh, and Trevor, how about we send Noemon out to go hunt this guy down and pun him into submission?
Posted by Raia (Member # 4700) on :
Thank you for your support everyone.
I just got back to the computer, after I spent over an hour and a half lying on the couch in the living room, crying, and not saying a single word to anyone. I (and of course, the rest of my family as well) am just engulfed by misery... the days are unbearable. The nights are worse.
Is there nothing that makes this easier?
I can't even talk to a friend on the phone or something, because I lost my voice.
Posted by TMedina (Member # 6649) on :
Noemon's last post was in unintentionally poor taste, hence my comment.
Time heals most, if not all wounds Raia - you cannot bypass the healing process and I'm afraid it involves a great deal of pain.
It's hard to believe, but things will get better and you will appreciate life and the people in your life so much more for your loss.
-Trevor
Posted by Vána (Member # 6593) on :
I'm so sorry, Raia.
Posted by Jaiden (Member # 2099) on :
Time. Friends. Family.
They don't necessarly make it easier, but they make it bareable.
I also find doing something, anything so I don't feel so helpless and miserable helps... I took up knitting when my mother died, just to keep my hands busy and me somewhat distracted. (I was in hospital so my "to do" was limited, I read, I slept, I knitted and I sat in front of the tv).
((((((hugs)))))))
Try to avoid the media, it won't help and they don't know the "truth".
Take care of yourself. Make sure you family also takes care of themselves. Make sure to eat.
I'm so sorry
(((((hugs)))))
Posted by Shigosei (Member # 3831) on :
How unbelievably sad. Fourteen years old. I'm so sorry, Raia. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted by J T Stryker (Member # 6300) on :
(((Raia)))
Posted by Dan_raven (Member # 3383) on :
((Raia)) You have our prayers, wishes, and shoulders to lean on.
Posted by Corwin (Member # 5705) on :
((((Raia)))) I'm sorry for your loss. ((((Raia))))
Posted by Raia (Member # 4700) on :
The funeral is tomorrow. Hopefully that'll provide some closure, right?
Again, thanks a million everyone. Your comments are not going unnoticed.
Posted by Raia (Member # 4700) on :
What a beautiful girl. I'm so sorry. Posted by breyerchic04 (Member # 6423) on :
(shani, maya and family)
Darling I don't know how to cope with this, but it will get better and we're all thinking about you.
Sarah's mom
Posted by Raia (Member # 4700) on :
The funeral was today.
There were many speakers, and everything they said was beautiful. I was touched to see how many people were there. Many of the speakers were students from Tiltan's class, who wanted to try and let her know how much they loved her. It was a really tough ceremony, but hopefully she knows she's loved.
Oh... and six cellphones went off during the ceremony. SIX! Posted by Dragon (Member # 3670) on :
Six cellphones went off during the funeral??? That's terrible!!!
*hug*
I hope that things are starting to get better. You'll never forget, but hopefully remembering will get easier soon.
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
I'm glad you went to the funeral - it's important not only for your own well-being but to the family as well.
And you'd think the first thing everyone would do when they heard the first ring was turn off their own phones.
Sheesh.
Dagonee
Posted by Fyfe (Member # 937) on :
(((((Raia)))))
I'm so sorry.
Jen
Posted by MaydayDesiax (Member # 5012) on :
::hugs little sister:: You have my numbers if you need me, little one, and I'm always avaliable. (((((Raia))))) It'll get better. It might take a while, but it'll get better.
Posted by Coccinelle (Member # 5832) on :
(((Raia))) I know how hard this can be. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.
Posted by Tammy (Member # 4119) on :
((((Raia))))
Posted by Noemon (Member # 1115) on :
Hey, I'm sorry if what I wrote was taken as a pun--I had no idea what Trevor was talking about until I went back and looked. I meant nothing of the sort--I was just hoping that you would get solid answers to your questions about how this happened. Sorry that it looks as though that isn't happening. We're all thinking of you Raia.
Posted by dread pirate romany (Member # 6869) on :
Raia, the questions must be so hard...she was so lovely. Oh, I cannot beleive people had cell phones on at a funeral.
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