He apparently had a stroke which caused him to fall, hitting his head. He was in a coma for a few days and passed away late Friday night.
The funeral is this Friday. I'm feeling kind of down in the dumps and could use some hugs and cheering up.
edited for spelling
[ October 19, 2004, 02:36 AM: Message edited by: Derrell ]
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
(((((Derrell)))))
Posted by Derrell (Member # 6062) on :
Thank you, rivka. Things like this really throw you for a loop. I couldn't believe it when I heard he was in a coma.
(((rivka)))
Posted by MaydayDesiax (Member # 5012) on :
(((((Derrell)))))
I'm sorry to hear about that. How's Grandma taking it?
Posted by Derrell (Member # 6062) on :
Outwardly, grandma appears to be coping with it well, but I'm not sure how she'll handle the funeral. Ted was 2 years younger than she is. Of course, she was a nurse for many years so she understands what a stroke can do to a person.
I'm still not sure how well she'll handle it. She went to see him at the hospice and left he died just after she and my mom left that night.
(((Mayday)))
Posted by Raia (Member # 4700) on :
(((((((((Derrell and Family)))))))))))) I'm so sorry, that's really rough. Best wishes to you and your family... I hope you get through this alright! *more hugs* Let me know if there's anything I can do to help. I'm so sorry. Posted by quidscribis (Member # 5124) on :
(((((Derrell)))) I feel for you. Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :
I'm so sorry, Derrell.
Posted by dread pirate romany (Member # 6869) on :
Derrel and family Posted by Derrell (Member # 6062) on :
This is one of the things i love about Hatrack. You can always get hugs and moral support when you need them.
Hatrack Posted by ludosti (Member # 1772) on :
I'm sorry to hear about your great uncle. I hope you and your family will be comforted. *big hug for Derrell and his family*
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
(((Derrell)))
very sorry to hear this about your uncle...
Farmgirl
Posted by Intelligence3 (Member # 6944) on :
My condolences to you and your family. Posted by Synesthesia (Member # 4774) on :
*hugs*
Posted by Noemon (Member # 1115) on :
Dorry to hear about your great uncle, Derrell. How old was he?
Posted by Derrell (Member # 6062) on :
Noemon, he was 85. My grandma is 2 years older than him. That's one reason I'm worried about how well she's taking it.
If he'd lived he would've had brain damage. I'm not sure if it was caused by the stroke or hitting his head when he fell.
I think he's better off than if he'd lived, but it's still hard to deal with.
Posted by Noemon (Member # 1115) on :
I expect so; strokes can be pretty devastating. That doesn't make it any easier to bear though; when someone you love dies, it doesn't make it better to think of ways in which it could have been worse. You love them, and they're gone. That's never easy. I know that there's nothing I could say that would be of much help, but you and your family have my sympathy, and I'm thinking of you.
Posted by digging_holes (Member # 6237) on :
((((( Derrell )))))
Posted by Goody Scrivener (Member # 6742) on :
((((Derrell)))) Posted by larisse (Member # 2221) on :
{{{Derrell}}}
Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
{{{Derrell}}}
Posted by Lupus (Member # 6516) on :
sorry
Derrell Posted by Ela (Member # 1365) on :
My condolences to you and your family.
Posted by Derrell (Member # 6062) on :
I'd like to thank everybody for the hugs and condolences.
I'd also like to thank Goody for the kiss. I believe it's the first time a Jatraquera's ever kissed me.
The funeral's going to be rough for me. I've always gotten squicked by the viewing they generally have before the funeral. I always try to sit behind somebody tall so I don't have to look in the casket. I don't know if it's a phobia or what, but I always get that way.
I'm really glad I've got Hatrack to turn to in times like this.
Hatrack Posted by Anna (Member # 2582) on :
(((Derrell)))
Posted by Derrell (Member # 6062) on :
The funeral was this morning and I'm more bummed out than I was when I got up this morning. A lot of it has to do with the graveside service. It was a military funeral complete with bugler blowing taps and a rifle salute. Taps played on a bugle is the saddest thing I've ever heard.
I could use some hugs.
Posted by tt&t (Member # 5600) on :
(((((Derrell)))))
Posted by Shigosei (Member # 3831) on :
I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling down. (((Derrell)))
Posted by Ralphie (Member # 1565) on :
Each dynamic is so different between two people that it's very difficult to know exactly how to comfort a person when a loved one dies. I'm sorry you lost someone close to you, Derrell. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to use my e-mail address and drop me a note.
Posted by Derrell (Member # 6062) on :
Thanks Toni, I just might do that. (((Toni)))
Posted by Anna (Member # 2582) on :
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I don't know if it's a phobia or what, but I always get that way.![[Cry]](graemlins/cry.gif)