This is topic Is it something about me, personally, or is this just a guy thing I Don't Get? in forum Books, Films, Food and Culture at Hatrack River Forum.
Admittedly, It doesn't happen that often, but it seems that it happens to me more often than to people I know.
Why do guys do this? Okay, I guess I understand the little boys doing it when I was a kid. Shock value, the transgressive thrill. My little boy has done it to me a few times, because he thinks it's funny.
But just the "Hey, There's a girl walking down the street. I think I'll whip it out" thing.
I mean, WHAT? What do they expect me to do? Am I supposed to be shocked? Overcome with lust? WHAT!?!
It's pathetic, in a way. I just don't understand. I'm not particularly bothered, shocked or excited by a little veiny pink skin. Is it too much to ask that people KEEP It IN THEIR PANTS?
This doesn't seem to happen to my friends. Why ME? Is there an invisible sign on my head that says, "Penis Inspector"?
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God, I never want to outside again.
Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
Total guy thing. Right, guys?
Posted by Taalcon (Member # 839) on :
Posted by TimeTim (Member # 2768) on :
I never want to outside either.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
Interesting morning? Posted by Christy (Member # 4397) on :
*giggle* Poor Olivia! Can't say I've ever had that trouble, although I have heard about the phenomenon. I'm just as baffled as you.
Posted by TMedina (Member # 6649) on :
1. Only guys do it since, generally speaking, we're the only ones with the equipment to put on display.
2. I have never, ever exposed myself in public, nor do I have any desire to do so.
Why do some males expose themselves? You'll get various psychological answers and the specific answer will vary from person to person.
I'm sorry you seem to be on the short end of this particular stick, Olive.
-Trevor
Posted by Chris Bridges (Member # 1138) on :
(mentally revising my "things to do if I ever meet Olivetta" list...)
Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
Oh, you've outsided?
Olivet, did he just pull it out right there, or was he just walking down the street like that?
Posted by Telperion the Silver (Member # 6074) on :
Well.... we do build obelisks and other large pointy structures...
Posted by ludosti (Member # 1772) on :
Wow, you must just be a freak magnet.... Posted by Xaposert (Member # 1612) on :
That's almost as far from being a guy thing as you can get....
Posted by Paul Goldner (Member # 1910) on :
Just as a minor correction, women can and do often expose their breasts in public...
That said, Olivia, I have no idea why you get it so much. I've never heard of it happening to any of my female friends outside of a setting where they went on a first date with a guy, and when they got to a private place him whipping it out. (In both cases, the women were awesome enough to go insult the guy's equipment before walking out the door). I know it HAPPENS. Maybe you spend too much time near guys walking home while drunk?
Posted by mr_porteiro_head (Member # 4644) on :
I've know of guys to do this, but I've also known of girls to whip them out.
In fact, I've known girls to do it much more than the guys. Maybe it's just a girl thing that I don't understand.
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
I was in a public library once looking for a book. I had squatted down to read the titles on the very bottom row.
When I looked up, there was this guy right next to me -- above me -- with it whipped out playing with it while staring at me.
I nearly threw up. I mean -- it is such a shock to the system to suddenly realize someone is sexually fantasizing about you without your permission....you feel....violated, or squicky out or whatever.
That said, I also have to agree with Paul. Back when I drove a semi -- my co-drive was my boyfriend -- women in passing cars where always "flashing" him -- seems they really got a cheap thrill out of it (and so did he, of course) (Because, you know, truck drivers can look right down into the interiors of cars so well -- you would be amazed at some of things we watched)
Farmgirl
Posted by skillery (Member # 6209) on :
My wife tells a story of the time when her car left her stranded downtown. A guy in dirty coveralls walked by and stopped to look under her hood. She said that his coveralls were unzipped all the way down to his waist, and when he bent over the front of the car an erect willy popped out and briefly came in contact with the hot radiator. Next time she'll get him to bend over a leaky car battery.
The lady next door teaches jr. high math and says that she had to send a girl home on the first day of school this year because the girl was going commando in skin-tight, sheer white pants.
[ September 22, 2004, 03:54 PM: Message edited by: skillery ]
Posted by Elizabeth (Member # 5218) on :
Ha ha. This was an accidental penis show, but you know those flimsy runner's shorts, the ones that have a slit up the side and are usually kind of silky?
Well, a dad who practices with his kids' track team was sprinting with the kids, and apparently was running "freestyle." He did not know it, but he was running more freely than he thought. In fact, his willy was waggling outside the shorts for all the lacrosse parents to see. (they played lacrosse on a field within the track area.)
Sorry, just had to share.
Posted by Elizabeth (Member # 5218) on :
This one is nasty. Last year, an aide was covering one of the 7th grade classes. She did not know, but in the back row, a young man was having at himself. A girl next to him asked what in heck he was doing. He asked if she would like to help...and she did. Not good. Nope. Not good at all.
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
quote:(Because, you know, truck drivers can look right down into the interiors of cars so well -- you would be amazed at some of things we watched)
I've heard stories. You should start a thread with your own stories, or share them here!
Posted by Elizabeth (Member # 5218) on :
You know, I always wondered about that aspect of truck driving.
Edit: Do truck drivers then report these sightings over the CB radio?
[ September 22, 2004, 03:59 PM: Message edited by: Elizabeth ]
Posted by CStroman (Member # 6872) on :
Guys do stupid things like that. I remember "pancing" (yanking down a fellow male student's drawers in school halls, etc. just so long as it was in front of females) when I was in school.
But it is not all guys. Basically it's the deterioration of society as a whole.
I've seen the "Girls Gone Wild" ads on late night TV. As well as the "Jerry Beads" on Jerry Springer. Both make me sick at how degenerative Americans are becomming.
But it's not my thing.
[ September 22, 2004, 04:14 PM: Message edited by: CStroman ]
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
quote:Do truck drivers then report these sightings over the CB radio?
A friend had a CB and I heard a trucker telling people about a 34 and a half in a convertible.
Dagonee
[ September 22, 2004, 04:17 PM: Message edited by: Dagonee ]
Posted by Chris Bridges (Member # 1138) on :
Basically is the deterioration of society as a whole.
Not especially. I will agree that looser morals are not more easily seen than at any other time in history, but I'm not ready to accept that there are more degenerates nowadays. Some study of ancient civilizations or even a cursory glance at erotica through history can help out there.
Posted by Katarain (Member # 6659) on :
What's a 34 and a half?
And I thought it was pantsing.. since one's pants are pulled down. *shrugs* I've never seen it written before.
-Katarain
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
What is 34.5 half of?
Dagonee
Posted by mr_porteiro_head (Member # 4644) on :
quote: Some study of ancient civilizations or even a cursory glance at erotica through history can help out there.
A study of ancient civilizations that have, um, deteriorated? Posted by Fitz (Member # 4803) on :
When I was about 12 years old, I went to a triple A baseball game here in Edmonton. A friend of mine noticed that, directly behind him, was a man wearing naught but a pair of spandex shorts. These shorts were woefully short, and the man's scrotum was revealed to be poking out of the sides. We had a good laugh, and my mom was mortified.
What I still wonder to this day is, did he not feel something? Let alone the physical sensation one must feel when spandex shorts are cutting off the circulation to one's boys, did this man feel no embarassment? Or perhaps it was his intent to reveal himself. In either case, it is a memory I will always carry, to my chagrin.
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
quote: What is 34.5 half of?
Yep, there was an awful lot of that.
quote: Do truck drivers then report these sightings over the CB radio?
You mean to each other? Sometimes.
Once (and this was 20 years ago, remember) we saw a motorist who had a TV in his front seat (this was before these new vans we have with DVD players) and he was watching TV while driving! He was weaving all over the place, on I-80 across Nebraska.
We got on the CB and called for a cop (they used to have CBs in their cars back then, (some of them, just on their own), contacted one, and we reported this guy. Then we stayed with him to update location. Finally the patrol caught up with us, moved up alongside of this TV-watching guy and paced him for about two miles and I don't think the guy ever looked up and saw him.
Then they shut him down.
Farmgirl
Posted by beverly (Member # 6246) on :
quote: Is there an invisible sign on my head that says, "Penis Inspector"?
*head falls off*
Posted by skillery (Member # 6209) on :
quote:naught but a pair of spandex shorts
You won't see that where jellowjackets are abundant.
Posted by beverly (Member # 6246) on :
I am thinking aloud here, but I am assuming men who do this think women will be (on some level) impressed. Because of size... I dunno. It is pretty easy to look at a clothed woman and know the approximate size of her breasts. It is a lot harder to tell the size of a clothed man's member. Maybe they figure they were well endowed and they want to share that with the world?
Posted by Katarain (Member # 6659) on :
Ooooh.... It's so obvious now...
Thanks.
-Katarain
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
Frankly, it just sounds dangerous to me.
Posted by skillery (Member # 6209) on :
quote:Maybe they figure they were well endowed
The branch office where I do my banking has a yardstick attached to the door so that the surveillance camera can record your height as you enter the building.
Maybe the exterior of men's trousers should be ruled in both metric and English units.
Posted by Paul Goldner (Member # 1910) on :
You know, I've never even really noticed women to be all that interested in the size *Shrug* as long as its not tiny, they don't seem to care too much about size... *shrug*
Posted by Suneun (Member # 3247) on :
*snorts* at Paul.
Posted by Paul Goldner (Member # 1910) on :
Guess I'm wrong heh.
Honestly, my female friends have never seemed to care about that.
*insert comment about self here*
Posted by Suneun (Member # 3247) on :
I'm guessing there's a wide range of don't-care to exact-dimension-favorites. Many girls don't really find penises interesting at all, while some find them fascinating.
Posted by Dan_raven (Member # 3383) on :
Why don't women do it? Because if they are the least bit attractive, they can do it and get paid. Well, that is what a phsych book said about it around 20 years ago.
Never had the urge to do it.
Couldn't give you a good reason why, accept "because I can".
Perhaps its a less violent "rape"/control issue. "I can get a response out of you by doing this, and you can't."
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
quote: Honestly, my female friends have never seemed to care about that.
*bites my tongue*
Posted by TMedina (Member # 6649) on :
Flashers are usually compulsive - they are driven to expose themselves for various reasons.
Before anyone speculates, I took a course in deviant psychological behavior geared expressly for vice officers on the local police force.
Every once in a while, you run across the odd bird who likes the shock value, but generally speaking there are underlying motivations.
One specific class was the "incidental flasher" who has learned or believes that exposing one's genitals leads to sexual activity. These were classified as being the most dangerous because if they targeted children, they would be the first to try and silence the witness lest they be reported.
-Trevor
Posted by Dan_raven (Member # 3383) on :
My favorite Flasher story.
This was on the radio a few years ago.
A local McDonalds drive through worker got tired of Mr. NoPants driving ordering his coffee and eggs every morning, then showing up at her window all happy to see her.
The second day he showed up she held up the drive through line while the police were called in and arrested him.
The police also got their breakfast to go.
All I kept thinking of when I heard this story was, "He must have good cup holders, cause there is no way he'd be putting that coffee between his legs."
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Too bad she couldn't have "accidentally spilled" the coffee whil handing it to him.... That's what I would have done!
Farmgirl
Posted by Telperion the Silver (Member # 6074) on :
Trust me... size does matter...
I figure looking at a dude's buldge is just as fun for me as straight dudes looking at women's curves.
[of course I try to avoid this since it's a tad rude... "hey Frodo! Eyes up here!"]
[ September 22, 2004, 05:38 PM: Message edited by: Telperion the Silver ]
Posted by Paul Goldner (Member # 1910) on :
Ok. Size matters. LOL
Some of my collegiate female friends were... very frank with me about sex, and it never seemed to be something they talked about.
Whatevah. I'm not worried. I got more then enough *grin, runs*
Posted by Taalcon (Member # 839) on :
You know, I'm actually surprised to hear you say that, Telp. I guess I just don't 'get' the gay mindset.
For me, I consider the woman's body one of the most beautiful works of art ever created. The breasts aren't separate 'hidden sexual objects', they're part of the art (rhyme unintended). It's part of the figure - the curves are part of what makes 'the whole package' so aesthetically pleasing.
Now with guys, the Bulge isn't a natural piece of the figure. It's a bit of an out of place extremity that looks like it was tacked on at the last moment. Admit it guys - it's silly looking.
Notice that Male anatomy in media is usually used in jokes and adolescent humor, and female nudity is usually used for sexual effect. While admittedly becoming more prevelent, male frontal nudity much less prevalent in films - even in scenes where a woman would Bare It All, there's very little chance you'll ever see Mr Happy.
My favorite all time euphamism for the Penis was used in Stephen King's THE STAND - Harold referred to it as "The Ridiculous Thing", capitilized as I have. I laughed my butt off when I first read that.
It's funny 'cause it's true.
--
So T- does the buldge excite because of the thoughts of what's causing it, or is it part of what you consider 'aesthetic beauty' as well? Because as I said above, part of the main attraction to women for me is the sheer aesthetic beauty thereof, the curves being part of the whole 'composition'. At least for you, does 'aesthetics' play into it at all?
[ September 22, 2004, 06:00 PM: Message edited by: Taalcon ]
Posted by Telperion the Silver (Member # 6074) on :
Good questions Taalcon.
I would answer yes to both. It's cool because of the sexual thing, but it is also (at least for me) part of the whole and not silly at all. To expand on the aesthetic aspect, the human body is symetrical...and for me it seems to be the central point, along with the face and head, that joins the two halves.
Dunno how to explain further... but yah. It's both cool unto itself and as the whole.
Posted by Tammy (Member # 4119) on :
Don't worry Olivia, you're not the only one.
I was driving home from work and this car in the left lane kept speeding up and slowing down to match my speed. After ignoring the car for so long, I looked over. A man, of course, waved and grinned. I half-ass smiled back because I've got the curse of manners in strange situations. He honked. Against my better judgment I looked over at his car again, mainly because his pace matching was beginning to freak me out. With his left hand on the wheel, he pointed down towards his prize possession then went to town, so to speak. I was shocked. I missed the perfect opportunity to put a ridiculously proud man in his place. I turned away and put the petal to the metal. I smoked him. My heart was thumping.
If only I'd had the nerve to point, make a teeny weenie sign with my fingers and dramatically laugh.
Not that I'd want a do over in that situation.
Scary!
Posted by Storm Saxon (Member # 3101) on :
Olivetta, why don't you carry a camera with you or get one of those cell phones that allow you to take pictures and take a picture if possible, so you have something to show police?
In any case, what happened to you really sucks. Some men are real pigs.
Posted by beverly (Member # 6246) on :
My memories of childhood are faint at best, but I recall something happening to me that I didn't realize the meaning/significance of until much later. I was at a park with my family. On the edge of the park was a forest on a steep hill, and I went exploring on my own. It was a ways off, but a man was standing at the top of the hill. He whistled at me and made gestures around his exposed loins, but he was too far away for me to see much. I was confused and uncomfortable, and left. I didn't tell anyone what happened. I thought maybe the guy was urinating and wondered why he was acting so funny.
Posted by J T Stryker (Member # 6300) on :
I'm betting most guys who flash you Olivetta, are just trying to brag about size.
Too bad they can't just be confident in the fact that their tiny when compared to a real man. *points to self*
Posted by Primal Curve (Member # 3587) on :
Someone needs to teach hatrack the difference between growers and showers, but it ain't gonna be me. Posted by Olivetta (Member # 6456) on :
I don't think either of the adults who've done this had anything to brag about. The kids just did it for the shock value (this was back when I was between 8 and 10) I'm fairly certain.
I am, actually, a freakshow magnet. I have a certificate and everything.
Today, I just happned to be the only one in the drive through line at Starbucks that was stuck behind the building (the place you give your order is on the same side as the pick-up window). I noticed some guy gesticulating and, well, there ya go. Had my sunglasses on, so I don't think he ever realized I saw him, but he was trying real hard to get my attention. I told the guy at the drive-up window, and he had somebody dial 911. Guy was gone by the time they came.
The other time, I was in HS. I used to walk around my neighborhood sometimes. It was pretty. There were apple orchards and natural beauty. Then there was this guy in front of me. I have never laughed so hard. He left. *shrug*
But even my beloved has done this thing occasionally. In private. I'm doing the dishes or something, we're alone. Out of the blue, Trouser Snake!
I have come to believe that it may be because he's so impressive that he does this. But I'm always like, "You have GOT to be kidding."
Maybe I take his magnificence for granted.
Posted by TMedina (Member # 6649) on :
If your post is to be believed, Olive, you are in the best position to appreciate the implications either way.
-Trevor
Posted by Leonide (Member # 4157) on :
I'm pretty sure that men expose themselves because they get off on the shocked look -- not to brag about size. Exhibitionists, right? I think you can find that definition in just about any psych book.
Poor Olivet. I guess I've been really lucky, the most I've ever gotten is a few car horn beeps.
Posted by Pixie (Member # 4043) on :
I'm with Leo on this one in that I count myself quite lucky to have never had this happen to me. Whistles and cat-calls and the staring they come with are bad enough, but THAT?
That and I admire your restraint, hun - I'd have wanted to slap both of the flashers as soon as I'd got over the shock and actually conciously realized what was happening. PSI's comment about spilling the coffee sounds good, too, though .
Edit because I realized saying that I'd be "sorely tempted to hit" someone might not be such a good idea in this thread.
[ September 22, 2004, 08:08 PM: Message edited by: Pixie ]
Posted by TMedina (Member # 6649) on :
As long as you wash your knee off afterwards, I don't see it being a problem.
-Trevor
Posted by Synesthesia (Member # 4774) on :
So, one day in junior high school I was walking down the street about 2 blocks away from the elemetrary school SOME GUY WAS STANDING THERE WITH it OUT FOR THE WHOLE WORLD TO SEE! I was freaked! I walked away from him as fast as possible and told my grandmother who called the cops and they made me look at pictures of really ugly men.
Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :
In an Urbana, IL, library -- before I had the street sense of a typical peanut -- I used to love tucking away into a hidden corner with a good book. This was until the guy in parachute pants started masturbating a half aisle down. I nonchalantly strolled past, browsing the books, eased out of view, had a librarian call the police (there had been complaints before, but he hadn't been caught), and had him arrested.
It was satisfying in indescribable ways.
Posted by Olivetta (Member # 6456) on :
Reading back over this... I'm sorry I made it sound like it happens often. Twice in a lifetime (excluding children) just SEEMS like a lot.
In my defense, it IS twice more than most people I know. *shrug*
Syn, I just had to tell you that your post made me laugh. I mean, it was horrible, but the "Made me look at pictures of really ugly men" bit. Poor thing. It was like they punished you for being the victim. Poor Kid
Sara, Good on you!
Posted by imogen (Member # 5485) on :
quote: This doesn't seem to happen to my friends. Why ME? Is there an invisible sign on my head that says, "Penis Inspector"?
This happens to one of my friends as well. Never to me. I can catch trains with impunity - but not her.
Poor Olivia. Maybe you should start carrying signs in your handbag to whip out in response. "It's not that big" or "They say it's what you do with it that counts - guess you're screwed on both fronts" kind of thing.
Either that or pepper spray.
*ouch*
Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :
Olivia, I'm pretty sure it's your wholesome-yet-decadent appeal.
imogen: pepper spray with indelible ink, just to make the identification that much easier. Posted by littlemissattitude (Member # 4514) on :
I've only ever been flashed once, to my recollection, but it was a doozy.
About, oh, ten years ago or so, I was in a van with a group from community college going to a conference in southern California. All women in the van, by the way. We were on I-5, right about where you pass Magic Mountain, almost to our destination, in fairly heavy but moving-at-the-speed-limit traffic, when I looked out the window to see a guy on a motorcycle, pacing our van, with his Little Friend flapping in the wind. It took me a second to realize what he was doing, and then I just looked away and started laughing hysterically. Of course I was the only one in the van who saw it, so I had to explain to everyone else why I was laughing so hard.
The thing that I was laughing at so hard was not so much that he had done that, but at the thought that had flashed through my head when I realized what was going on. It went something like: "He's on a motorcycle, in traffic, on a freeway going fast. If he goes down, he's going to lose that thing and it's going to hurt." And in my opinion, if he was stupid enough to do that there, he deserved whatever happened.
Posted by TMedina (Member # 6649) on :
Let's hope he wasn't taking a short cut.
-Trevor
Posted by Mabus (Member # 6320) on :
I remember being on a bus trip, once, long ago, and a long car (a limo?) passed us with a woman stripping in the back seat. I didn't actually manage to see it because everyone crowded the windows on that side, but the implication from what I heard was that she seemed to be a high-class prostitute on the way to a "job".
Whoever she was, when the occupants realized she was being observed they sped up and disappeared into the distance.
Posted by Synesthesia (Member # 4774) on :
The funny thing is, I didn't even see his face. Took one blurry look at that freaky brown thing and took off. ( Kind of meant for that last statement to be funny)
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
quote: PSI's comment about spilling the coffee sounds good, too, though [Big Grin]
>_>
Posted by Avadaru (Member # 3026) on :
Freshman year, the boy who sat next to me in math class used to masturbate for nearly the whole class period. I honestly think he was trying to be discreet about it (if that's really possible, in such a situation...) and he was a complete nerd who never said a word and who seemed to fear even ordinary social interactions, so rather than embarrass him by making a big deal out of it, I privately asked the teacher if I could be moved to another seat. She complied and I don't know if he ever stopped doing it.
That's the closest to the aforementioned "flashings" that I have ever experienced - and for that I am very glad.
Seems like you do have a talent for attracting exhibitionist weirdos, though, Olivetta...
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
I was with a girl I know at McDonald's when I caught one of the employees with a hand in his pants. I assumed he was tucking in his shirt or even adjusting himself, but he didn't remove his hand for a while. The friend knew his name and said that he had done the same thing all through high school. I guess I wonder why those dudes think they are being discrete?
Posted by TMedina (Member # 6649) on :
Denial.
Because they are anything but discreet.
-Trevor
Posted by Mabus (Member # 6320) on :
I hesitate to even bring this up, but...
Every now and then guys have been known to get...disarranged. It's not comfortable at all, and we like to find some way of adjusting ourselves to fix the problem, although most of us try to be discreet. I found that it was usually possible to do this without being seen by watching just the people to either side of me, because the shape of my desk hid that part of me from most views.
However, on one occasion (during middle school) I became careless and was spotted by someone who began to make fun of me. To make matters worse, one pair of my pants had begun to have zipper malfunctions, and though I had meant to discard them I had accidentally worn those pants that particular day--my fly was open. My taunter spotted that too, and soon gossip began to circulate that I was masturbating in class.
Completely false...but what could I do about it, at that point? I kept my mouth shut and let it die down. Also I made sure those pants were carefully disposed of so I never wore them again.... Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
Discrete like concrete.
PSI
Posted by Anthro (Member # 6087) on :
Hm. In my experience, most high schoolers at least write a pass to the restroom.
Seriously, this is why I don't eat or drink before school.
[ September 22, 2004, 11:16 PM: Message edited by: Anthro ]
Posted by skillery (Member # 6209) on :
I used to work for a computer manufacturer which had long rows of burn-in racks for reliability testing. The burn-in man would walk up and down the rows of computers with his hands thrust deep into the pockets of his anti-static smock. One day his boss happened to discover that those pockets had little holes worn in them. The man had been fly fishing the whole time.
Posted by breyerchic04 (Member # 6423) on :
one of the teacher's at my high school taught many classes with one hand in his pocket, just a little disturbing.
Posted by beverly (Member # 6246) on :
Is that what is known as multitasking?
Seriously, I don't get why someone would do anything like that in public. Adjusting, yes, that is necessary and probably poses a problem for guys trying to be discrete. But sexual behavior in public? Ewwww.
Posted by Jaiden (Member # 2099) on :
On the army base I had this regularly happen. (Multiple times a month.) After a certain point you just role your eyes and continue on your way.
Outside if that, i've had it happen maybe 3 or 4 times.
Maybe I have a massive penis inspector stamp on my forehead
(to be honest, I can't remember one of these guys penis' or faces so I guess if they were trying to shock or impress me the failed miserably )
Posted by Eaquae Legit (Member # 3063) on :
The sheer volume of aphorisms here makes me snicker...
And I have no interesting stories, except when one of the non-verbal men I lived/worked with decided to come downstairs to tell us he was done his bath...
Posted by Bob the Lawyer (Member # 3278) on :
Just so's you know, a man with his hand down his pants for an extended period of time isn't necessarily choking his chicken. Go to a soccer game in November and all the guys will be standing around with their hands down their pants while not on the field or during a long stoppage. It's cold out and that's the warmest part of your body.
Posted by Olivetta (Member # 6456) on :
"It's nature's pocket."
(Futurama quote)
Posted by Jutsa Notha Name (Member # 4485) on :
I just couldn't continue reading every single post, but if this hasn't already been covered, you will find it informative.Here is another link. It is a behavior where you aren't really being factored in as anything but a tool to arouse them. It isn't to impress you or excite you, it is to satisfy themselves because it arouses them.
Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :
quote: Go to a soccer game in November and all the guys will be standing around with their hands down their pants while not on the field or during a long stoppage. It's cold out and that's the warmest part of your body.
You see ... this has to be some major socialization difference between men and women. Hands in armpits, yes. Warming up batteries in my cleavage, yes. Resting my hands down my pants clutching my bits ... no. Just ain't gonna happen. Not while just standing around shooting the breeze and watching a soccer game. I couldn't even if you tried to make me.
Very different.
Posted by beverly (Member # 6246) on :
Sara:
Jutsa: That makes a lot of sense. Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :
beverly: (you know?)
Posted by beverly (Member # 6246) on :
Tohhhhtally
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Fine, but don't come whining to me when your fingers freeze Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
You know, Sara, guys don't have the benefit of cleavage. Now the question remains, which is warmer? Armpits or bits?
Line up, let's test it out.
Posted by TMedina (Member # 6649) on :
Some of the guys did that on Boy Scout trips, but I just refused. Yes, it's warm(er), but I really don't want cold hands anywhere near my "bits".
It's so much more dignified to just bring some gloves and dress for the weather.
And it's a temporary fix at best because you break the seal helping to retain body heat.
-Trevor
Posted by Anna (Member # 2582) on :
Trust me Olivet, you should be happy they just show you their thing... I happen to be a person whom guys try to touch, and I swear my clothing is not suggesting or anything ! When you cross a man in a street and he just touch your bra like that, you're so astonished you don't have time enough to kick him before he goes away !
Posted by TMedina (Member # 6649) on :
Erk! Eek?
Gah.
That's more than a little creepy.
Thanks Anna for illustrating the "it could always be worse" cliche.
-Trevor
Posted by Olivetta (Member # 6456) on :
If men try to touch my chest, I just assume they're wondering if I have any
Actually, I did get pinched once on a Brazillian transit bus. It was so crowded I couldn't tell who I needed to slap.
One of the blessings of having slight curves is that you only get groped by butt-and-leg men. At least, that's what I assume. I think there are more breast men, generally.
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