Olivia, one of the Hatrack regulars, was with her mother when her mother did yesterday morning just before 11 am. The funeral will be held this Friday in her hometown in Tennessee.
Olivia is with her siblings, her husband, and her two young sons, so there is a lot of love going around where she is. I'm sure she would still appreciate messages of support and goodwill, although it may be awhile before she replies or logs in here.
Her email is oliviaf@bellsouth.net, and the thread she started when her mother went into the ICU is Pray for me.
[ August 25, 2004, 11:21 AM: Message edited by: Sara Sasse ]
Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :
(PS: This is CT under me own name, but that's for another thread. Keep Olivia in your thoughts, guys -- it will be tough time for her and a real time of change. She might need space or a dogpile of good friends, Telperion-style. I'm sure she will let us know.
All the best. )
Posted by romanylass (Member # 6306) on :
I will keep her whole family in my prayers...peace to them all. I am glad she was able to be with her mom.
(Good to see you, Sara)
Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :
(hi, romanylass)
Should anyone want to send flowers or a note -- which is certainly not expected, although the question often arises in a setting like this -- the funeral home is under the name "Tetrick" in Elizabethton, Tennessee.
Switchboard Yellow Pages has a few listings for "Tetrick Funeral Home." I imagine they are all affiliated, though it might be worth a call before sending anything. Olivia's mother's name was Anne Peters.
Posted by Noemon (Member # 1115) on :
Olivet, I'm so sorry. You know that we're here if you need us.
((Olivet))
Posted by Space Opera (Member # 6504) on :
I'm glad she was able to be with her mom. Olivia and her family are in my thoughts.
space opera
Posted by BannaOj (Member # 3206) on :
*sends good thoughts to Olivet during this difficult time*
AJ
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Sara -- some funeral homes have on-line sites where you can post a note to the family via e-mail, for those too far away to attend, etc. Do you know if this funeral home has that?
Farmgirl
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
Aw, man. Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :
Farmgirl, I went looking, and I think that this page might be what you are looking for.
Posted by Papa Moose (Member # 1992) on :
While I'm saddened on behalf of Olivia and her family, I'll admit I chuckled a little bit at the post -- perhaps giddiness from CT's presence. The first sentence sounds like it could have been Olivia who died, rather than her mother. Following that with
quote:Olivia is with her siblings, her husband, and her two young sons, so there is a lot of love going around where she is. I'm sure she would still appreciate messages of support and goodwill, although it may be awhile before she replies or logs in here
made it a little funnier. Sorry -- been in a weird mood lately, so I find funny in the strangest places. Hope this doesn't offend.
(((Olivet & Family)))
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
Pop!!! You're back! We missed you!
Sara, thank you for posting this. I've been thinking of Olivia lately, and if she doesn't see this, let her know she has our love.
[ August 25, 2004, 11:19 AM: Message edited by: katharina ]
Posted by ludosti (Member # 1772) on :
Thanks for letting us know! I'd been wondering how things were going.
*lots of love and comfort for Olivette and her family*
Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Sara,
Thanks. I don't see her mom's name listed yet on the obits, but maybe they just haven't posted it. I suppose I could go ahead and send a note before they do....
Farmgirl
Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :
Edited for clarity, as grammar can be a beast at times. Thanks, Papa Moose. Out of respect for you, I will use no smilies in this post.
But I'll think them. Really hard.
(The good, friendly ones, that is! Didn't want you to think I was thinking of the "mack-smilie")
[ August 25, 2004, 11:43 AM: Message edited by: Sara Sasse ]
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
I never know what to say or do when a friend has a death in the family. Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :
I know, Jamie, it's hard. Trying to figure out what to say just underscores how ineffective language can be at capturing emotions and meaning.
The little gifts of presence matter (attending the funeral, dropping off food), as do the cards that just say "I'm sorry for your loss. I'll be thinking about you. Let me know if I can do anything," or something like that. Even when what you can do feels inadequate, remember that dealing with the death of a loved one is something we all go through, and we often do it many times in our individual lives. It's a part of the human experience. So most people understand that you wish you could do or say something profound-er, or somehow make it right, and so they understand what is behind the simple inadequate words, too.
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
Farmgirl, it may take a while.
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
Sara, do you have Olivia's mailing address? I have it but it's locked up in my dead computer.
Posted by Sara Sasse (Member # 6804) on :
Her home address? Not handy with me. I'm working out a way to attend the funeral, though, and when I check with her, I'll ask.
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
Sara, thanks for letting me know.
Prayers being said. I never got to meet Olivia's mother, but my heart is very sad right now imagining the pain my dear friend is going through.
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
I have it, I'll email you.
Posted by Vána (Member # 6593) on :
Belle, can you e-mail it to me as well? Dan and I would like to send a card.
Posted by dkw (Member # 3264) on :
Me too?
Posted by Belle (Member # 2314) on :
Let me know if you don't get it - I'm going to be gone for a while on some errands, if anyone else needs the address either email me or mack or dkw or Vana - I'll check back in later.
I called her, she sounded okay, considering, they are at the funeral home working out the details of the arrangements.
[ August 25, 2004, 11:59 AM: Message edited by: Belle ]
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
Thanks.
Posted by Icarus (Member # 3162) on :
(((((Olivia)))))
(((Sara)))
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
Your in our thoughts and prayers, Olivia. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Dagonee
[ August 25, 2004, 07:17 PM: Message edited by: Dagonee ]
Posted by Synesthesia (Member # 4774) on :
*hugs love and support to you and Olivia*
Posted by KarlEd (Member # 571) on :
Could someone please email the address information to me as well?
Posted by Tammy (Member # 4119) on :
(((((Olivia & Family)))))
If it wouldn't be to much trouble, I'd like her home address as well.
Thanks!
: wave : Sara
[ August 25, 2004, 02:57 PM: Message edited by: Tammy ]
Posted by Kayla (Member # 2403) on :
I'm sorry for your loss, Olivia. Posted by The Rabbit (Member # 671) on :
(((((Olivia & Family))))) Posted by The Rabbit (Member # 671) on :
quote:I never know what to say or do when a friend has a death in the family.
Amen!
I am a total social idiot under the best of circumstances and there is nothing like a death or a serious illness to bring that message home. I have no idea what to do or say.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
"I'm so sorry. I love you. I'm here if you need me."
And then call again in a month when the flowers have died and the numbness has started to wear off.
Posted by Bokonon (Member # 480) on :
My condolences to Olivia and her family.
-Bok
Posted by Chris Bridges (Member # 1138) on :
My thoughts are with you, Olivia. Strength and love and sad smiles.
Posted by Stan the man (Member # 6249) on :
(((Olivia))),
Posted by Derrell (Member # 6062) on :
(((Olivia))) Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
quote: I have no idea what to do or say
If you are in person, nothing says it better than a hug, and sometimes silence....
.
We all hurt with you and for you, Olivia..
Farmgirl
Posted by Elizabeth (Member # 5218) on :
I am so very sorry, Olivia. Relish your memories of her.
Posted by Kwea (Member # 2199) on :
Our thoughts are with you, and our prayers, Olivetta...
Kwea and JenniK
[ August 25, 2004, 06:51 PM: Message edited by: Kwea ]
Posted by twinky (Member # 693) on :
Olivia,
I empathize, and deeply, with what you're going through. I'm very, very glad that you have your family around you for support.
Take care of yourself.
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
It's not goodbye. Posted by plaid (Member # 2393) on :
(((Olivia)))
Posted by AmkaProblemka (Member # 6495) on :
Olivia and family,
May you feel the comfort of the loved ones around you. Thoughts and prayers your way.
Ami
Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
Olivia and family,
You are in my thoughts and prayers too.
- Bob
Posted by Lime (Member # 1707) on :
((Olivia))
You have our prayers as well.
Posted by katharina (Member # 827) on :
Olivia says that she doesn't have internet access so she can't respond to e-mails, but she can read them on her phone, and she's very grateful. The service is Friday night and the graveside service is Saturday morning. She's very grateful for the love shown by everyone. Posted by Mrs.M (Member # 2943) on :
Olivia, I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Posted by TMedina (Member # 6649) on :
For those of us who sent e-mail, I think I can speak for all of us when I say: we don't need a reply.
We just want her to know we're keeping her and her family in our thoughts and prayers in this time of mourning.
-Trevor
Posted by Ralphie (Member # 1565) on :
Hey, Jamie - After Tina died it really struck me how much courage it takes to say condolences to people who have lost someone. I had always sort of avoided the discomfort, thinking my ill-worded thoughts and phrases wouldn't really do any good, anyway.
I feel really, really bad for all those missed opportunities. Awkward words and helpless expressions were just as comforting, and it meant someone put some real effort into saying them, or just being there.
I would say that Olivia, like all people who have recently lost someone, draws encouragement from knowing someone is thinking about her, and trying to understand her pain. When there's a whole bunch of someones, the gratitude greatly overwhelms the need for a highly articulate expression of sympathy.
[ August 26, 2004, 12:03 AM: Message edited by: Ralphie ]
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
Sara, thank you for letting us know. And (((((Sara))))), because this is a difficult time for you too.
((((((((((Olivia&family)))))))))) I am so very sorry for your loss. My your memories of her and your love for each other grant you comfort. Know that you are so very loved. (((((Olivia)))))
[ August 25, 2004, 11:52 PM: Message edited by: rivka ]
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
Thanks, Toni.
Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
Peace be with you and your family, Olivia. My prayers are with you.
*lights candle in remembrance*
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