This is topic Back at home and still no baby... was "Don't go into labor while I'm gone." in forum Books, Films, Food and Culture at Hatrack River Forum.
Yesterday morning, I woke up with contractions at 5am. They were about half an hour apart, and not intense at all, but regular and didn't go away.
By 8am, they were about 15-20 minutes apart, but no stronger. I'd decided not to go to work, so I called my backup and my boss. No problem.
Called Doc about 10am. He said that until they either got closer together or stronger to assume it's NOT the real thing and he'd see me Monday. Okay, knowing my history (pitocin required for both) that seems reasonable.
Hubby got up about noon, and I told him what was going on. A little while later, he got called into work. He was gone until almost 6am.
All day, and all night, no closer, no stronger, but still not going away. I slept on the couch. Or, I dozed on the couch all night. Whatever.
This morning, they're a bit stronger but still not enough for me to not be able to talk normally through them, and still no closer together.
Hubby had to leave a little while ago. The last thing he said was, "Don't go into labor or anything while I'm gone. I love you."
Goober.
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[ May 11, 2004, 08:06 PM: Message edited by: Boon ]
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
Wait, when are you due?
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
The 13th. It's not THAT early. Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
Go for it! I'd be at that hospital SO fast....
Missing the last couple of weeks is the BEST.
Posted by Valentine014 (Member # 5981) on :
No! Not yet! You can't go until the 30th! (That was my baby pool guess).
Posted by MyrddinFyre (Member # 2576) on :
*grins*
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
AAAAAhhhhhhhH!
Still no closer, still not painful, just really uncomfortable. Taking Tylenol and resting a lot. Drinking a lot of water. Can't really eat much.
Hubby's still not home. I'm getting really frustrated and irritable.
I kept the kids home yesterday because, frankly, it hurts too much to get into and out of the car. So this is day two, going into day three with restless kids. And the weather's been too bad for them to play outside. They're making me crazy.
Unless I have to go to the hospital, Hubby will not be home until about 6am again tonight. My mother, well, she won't be coming to help me. And apparently my dad went out of town yesterday and won't be back for a couple of days. My sister, who is counting on being in the delivery room, won't even be home until Wednesday at the earliest.
Okay, here's my confession: I let the kids make their own peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for dinner. They used about half a jar of jelly each, and I don't really care!
Anyway, Hubby has nationwide on his cellphone. Does anyone want to volunteer to be the official crier? The plan: You get put on the list of people to call immediately from the hospital so you can post it here. And then I'll come add details later. Any takers?
Posted by dkw (Member # 3264) on :
I'd be happy to, although my cell phone will be off during church tomorrow. But if he leaves a message I'll post as soon as I get home. Shall I e-mail you my number?
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Sure...even if I go to the hospital now, [edit: which I'm NOT] it won't happen until tomorrow night at the earliest, so yeah, that'd be great.
[ April 24, 2004, 09:12 PM: Message edited by: Boon ]
Posted by tt&t (Member # 5600) on :
Wow! Exciting!
Good luck! Posted by LadyDove (Member # 3000) on :
Boon- I had a similar experience with my first. I was having very painful contractions for 20 hrs before going to the hospital and asking them to either deliver the baby or turn off the contractions so that I could get some sleep.
Because I had zero dialation and only 4% effacement, they gave me a muscle relaxer and sent me home. I went home and went to sleep on the couch. I slept for 6 hours, as I was waking up, I heard a "pop" that frightened me enough to make me jump up off the couch,no easy feat for a 38 week pregnant woman! My water had broken. I went to the hospital and John was born 15 hrs later.
Good luck and best wishes Boon.
Posted by Valentine014 (Member # 5981) on :
LadyD, thank you very much for sharing.
*runs off to get tubes tied*
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
*snicker* Val, you didn't read the labor stories thread, did you?
Boon, good luck! Days of intermittent contractions SUCK! My doc always recommended a glass of wine -- might want to ask yours what he thinks, if you think it might help you relax.
Wait, you have to be almost in labor to be able to let the kids make their own sandwiches using ungodly amounts of spreads? Ooops! Posted by LadyDove (Member # 3000) on :
Val- I think that one of the miracles of childbirth is the way the memory of the pain becomes something separate from you shortly after the baby is born.
Yes, the pain exists, but it is such a small price to pay when compared with what you get in return.
The last question I asked the doctor before I left the hospital was, "How long do I have to wait before I can get pregnant again?"
Posted by jexx (Member # 3450) on :
Ugh. Sounds like pro-dromal labor. I had that. Boo!
Similarly to LadyDove, I told the hospital people to give me something to sleep. They didn't, though. The bastiches. The second or third time I went to the hospital, though, they admitted me, and were going to give me something, but I effaced and such. So, I got to sleep later.
The labor wasn't so bad, it was being hungry afterward (SO VERY HUNGRY!), and the whole 'taking care of the baby' part. Those puppies are *demanding*!! VBG
Boon, I am thinking of you. I don't know what I would do in your position. Perhaps that is why I only have one kid. I can't imagine what I would do with him if I were pregnant. Ack.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Going on 63 hours now...tonight, hubby will be home, so I'm going to take some Benadryl before bed. At least I may be able to get some real sleep that way...
I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow. Hopefully, he'll send me over to the hospital. If not, well...hubby will just have to not work nights for a while. Posted by DocCoyote (Member # 5612) on :
Okay, I'll keep this on a family level.
The one thing my midwife suggested time and again was doing the nasty to get things rolling. Aparently, an alkaline environment was favorable to getting things moving in the right direction. Worked for me. And the XY Chromosonal part of things is alkaline, while a normal female vagina is somewhat acidic. And that's all I have to say about that.
Remember, it's okay to ask people to leave the delivery room if they're not making it easier for you.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
Much sympathy!!
Good luck at the doctor's tomorrow.
(((((Boon)))))
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Doc: I understood it was the prostaglandin (or similar) in the "deposit" that moved things along. Ah, well. It doesn't really matter, since I have absolutley NO interest in doing that with him right now anyway.
Anyway, thanks all for the good wishes, posted or not. I'm doing my best to NOT kill anyone today. Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
quote: I'm doing my best to NOT kill anyone today.
Yeah, that's often my goal for the day too. Posted by DocCoyote (Member # 5612) on :
Boon, you're absolutely right. It's the prostaglandins. However, the rhythmic contractions associated with the 'nasty' also tend to convince your uterus that a contraction in the right direction is a good thing. Whatever works for you is the best thing.
Prayers, positive thoughts and my best wishes to you. What a wonderful day (even though you're as anxious as a cat in a room full of rocking chairs!).
Be well. Welcome new baby!
Posted by Dan_raven (Member # 3383) on :
As a man, may I just say, OUCH!
Boy I'm glad I'm a man.
Good luck.
**tip toes out of room**
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Oh, Dan, this isn't the "ouch" part. Not by a long shot! This is just the "uncomfortable enough you can't really rest well but not bad enough to say ouch" part.
Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
My wife went through about 2 weeks of contractions with our second. They kept coming on and off, sometimes strong enough that we ended up at the hospital four different times. One of those times was all day, and we fully expected to have a baby by the next morning. When the doctor finally sent us home at midnight, we went to my wife's parents' house and crashed there. In the morning, my mother-in-law was mighty surprised to see us. "Where's the baby?"
She ended up getting induced and having her water broken because she was absolutely fed up with the false labor. Once the doctor broke her water, our son came in about 1 1/2 hours. Crazy. I don't think he wanted to come out.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
afr: I don't blame her.
76 hours...and I got news for Doc. He's putting me in the hospital today, ready or not! Either to STOP these contractions so I can rest, or to deliver this baby. If this goes on much longer, I won't have the energy to bother...
Well, you know what I mean.
Anyway...it's not "off and on", it's at least every 1/2 hour, usually every 15-20 minutes and strong enough to wake me up and make Thomas go nuts. About the time he calms down and I doze back off, here comes another one. I'm not in pain, I'm just exhausted!
I took a sleeping pill last night...big mistake. It didn't keep me from waking up, it just made me so dizzy I almost fell over every time I had to go to the bathroom. Which was several times.
::sigh::
I promise, I'll call, or have hubby call, Dana as soon as I know something.
Posted by MyrddinFyre (Member # 2576) on :
(((Boon)))
Good luck!
Posted by Ela (Member # 1365) on :
(((Boon)))
Good luck, from me, too.
Posted by Christy (Member # 4397) on :
Good luck Boon!
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Not today...
Rotten little child was "transverse". What's that mean? All those contractions were for naught. His head wasn't in the right place.
I'm going to bed now.
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
You know what I always say, Boon. Discipline begins in the womb.
*spanks Baby gently*
Err, wait....if he's transverse, that would put his bottom.....
Posted by UofUlawguy (Member # 5492) on :
IIRC, "transverse" means that the little punk is face up rather than face down, which while not as important as head-first vs. feet-first, is still not ideal. The kid should come head-first, face down.
But it has been a while, so I might have gotten this confused with another term.
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
Ah, so get ready for back labor, then.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
WAS transverse. Doc shoved and prodded, which hurt a LOT, and got him turned around. The contractions have stopped, at least for now. And now his head is down and "stabilized", which Doc says means that his head won't be a-wandering anymore.
He was gonna do a cervical exam to check dilation, but the sono (done first) showed the boy to be nowhere near where he needed to be. Crap.
Doc says "At least another week." Posted by peterh (Member # 5208) on :
Face-up is also sometimes referred to as "Sunny-Side-Up" as well. And it's more difficult to deliver that way for momma and baby.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
No, transverse is sideways...his head was to my left and his bottom was under my right ribcage.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Oh, yeah...to add insult to injury, I had to get ANOTHER Rhogam shot! I don't mind needles, but I hate shots. At least the "good" nurse was there today to give me the injection. Her needle sticks don't bruise like the other nurse's do. But still...
Posted by Shan (Member # 4550) on :
*Gently hugs Boon*
"Hang in there, sweetie."
*Reflects on the three week old infant she just got to hold and rock and coo to and remembers that as being the sweetest part of the whole deal*
Posted by Ela (Member # 1365) on :
Having a baby that was transverse (and no longer is) is better than having a c-section, which is what you would get if the baby were tranverse at delivery time. In other words, the pushing and prodding to get the baby in the right position, while I am sure that it hurt, was a good thing, if it will make it possible for you to have a normal delivery.
Hope all goes well for you.
[ April 26, 2004, 08:43 PM: Message edited by: Ela ]
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
Wasn't the baby wrong-side up a few weeks back? So transverse was progress (admittedly, not as much as one might like) -- and with the "nudges" from doc, hopefully the kid got the message, and will stay head-down.
So he's a tad slow. Or stubborn . . .
Good luck, Boon! At least the contractions have stopped.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Yes, he was "breech" or bottom down, then he was "vertex" or head down. This time he was "transverse". The problem is that he has a lot of fluid to move around in. He's shifted at least 4 times in the last week. So, even though the doctor says he probably won't shift again, he very well could. THAT would suck. Majorly.
Posted by Narnia (Member # 1071) on :
Maybe he'll just get so violent that your water will break and you can start the ordeal sooner.
Just kidding. I hope that what happens is what is best for you and baby. (((Boon)))
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
He's flipped again! I'm so depressed. And sore from where the doc was pusing on my belly. And frustrated. And, yes, ANGRY! I'm mad at the kid. Irrational, I know. But I am.
If he doesn't get his head back down there by Monday, we could be talking c-section.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
Oy. Poor Boon. (((((Boon)))))
I hope the kid learns his place soon. Posted by UTAH (Member # 5032) on :
Is Benadryl good for the baby?
Posted by Anna (Member # 2582) on :
(((Boon)))
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Tylenol, Sudafed, Benadryl.
Doc said I could take these without calling him, but everything else has to be pre-approved.
I trust him.
Posted by Ela (Member # 1365) on :
Hope the baby figures out which way is down before Monday. Hang in there, Boon.
Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :
(((Boon))) I know you don't want a c-section, but it wouldn't be the end of the world either. I hope your doctor will do what will be safest for you and the baby.
Posted by BannaOj (Member # 3206) on :
hmm well I'm sure you can throw this up to the kid when you give the "I carried you for this?" speech as a teenager...
Hang in there!
AJ
Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
Sign the kid up for swimming lessons first thing!
Good luck Boon! Thoughts and prayers to you and the entire family!!!
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Maybe this one would be more helpful. Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Mmmmmm...strawberries and grapes and bananas, breakfast (and lunch) of champions.
Not to mention high in fiber...or, at least, roughage. Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
He'll probably flip around alot.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Oh, he is.
::yawn::
Posted by Christy (Member # 4397) on :
Tylenol and Benedryl were on my list of approved medications as well.
Mmmm, strawberries. I'm so glad they're coming into season.
Poor Boon! Silly wiggly boy!
Hang in there! We'll hope for the best on Monday.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
And...here we go again...
Contractions started up again yesterday, but, again, not productive. At least, not until yesterday evening. Then, they became...I don't know...different. More uncomfortable. Like I couldn't sit still for one.
And I'm thirsty, drinking about 1 1/2 gallons of water a day. And juice, and milk, and Crystal Light...but mostly water. Can't seem to get enough.
Which, of course, means I'm spending a lot of time in the potty. Pink streaks started yesterday evening too.
So, maybe we're starting to really do something. Maybe not. Guess we'll see what Doc thinks tomorrow morning.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
Good luck, Boon.
*to Baby* Straighten up and get in position, kid!
Posted by romanylass (Member # 6306) on :
~~~~Boon- productive labor vibes~~~
It may not actually help, but I have heard that if you try to figure out where baby's head is, take something froze, and drag it from the baby's head to your pelvis, it can convine baby to get face down. Can't hurt.
Posted by dkw (Member # 3264) on :
Good luck, Boon & Baby.
Posted by CaySedai (Member # 6459) on :
I came across that site while trying to find a reference to something I heard when I was pregnant with my first child (she's 10). There was a news story about a restaurant in L.A. becoming popular with pregnant women because an ingredient in the salad dressing supposedly helped them go into labor. I lived in Chicago at the time, so I couldn't try it out. Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
I'd send some labor vibes your way, but if I missed I'd feel really guilty about whoever ended up getting them. Bad enough if they made someone go into labor a week early.
But what if they hit a guy?
Dagonee P.S., good thoughts, good thoughts.
[ May 02, 2004, 05:42 PM: Message edited by: Dagonee ]
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
CaySedai, I don't know if they still do, but the restaurant in question was doing a brisk mail-order business on that salad dressing for a while. For anyone playing at home, my memory is that it was a balsamic vinaigrette.
(And my oldest is 10 too -- small world. )
Posted by peterh (Member # 5208) on :
Best Wishes Boon!
I predicted May 3rd here and in case there's further debate I'll say around 8:00 pm.
Posted by CaySedai (Member # 6459) on :
rivka:
they induced my labor with that baby. I insisted on an epidural because I had heard horror stories of how bad induced labor was ...
With my second baby, I did without the epidural because I didn't like the loss of control - after Amanda (first daughter) was born, I couldn't stand by myself to get into the wheel chair to go to the room after delivery. I lived through both deliveries and they are both kind of a blur now, so no harm done.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
CaySedai, my first was also induced, and I ended up having an epidural. Small world!
Posted by sarcasticmuppet (Member # 5035) on :
It could be worse. With this little one my sister had a fybroid the size of a grapefruit blocking the cervix. Annie came out by C section.
[ May 03, 2004, 07:45 AM: Message edited by: sarcasticmuppet ]
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
She's a cutie sarcasticmuppet.
Well, I'm off to the doctor. If I have to go to the hospital, I'll have Hubby call Dana. Otherwise, I'll post whenever I get home.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
::sigh::
Okay, Doc says he had another woman in almost my shoes TODAY. She had to have a c-section because her baby just wouldn't stay head-down.
I said ALMOST. He also said Thomas is smarter than her baby was, as his head is down. YAY! And, Doc says his head's been down for a few days now, as it's getting down into where it needs to be. ANOTHER BIG YAY!
However, I'm not dilated ANY. So, Doc says not to worry, everything looks good, one more week, blah, blah, blah...
He also said to call if the contractions change at all...better, worse, or disappear. If they get easier or stop, he wants to change my appointment to a scheduled c-section. If they get harder, I get to go to the hospital.
I guess it could be worse. I could be that Mexican lady who had to cut herself open. Posted by Kama (Member # 3022) on :
(((Boon)))
Posted by MyrddinFyre (Member # 2576) on :
We're rootin for ya Posted by Ela (Member # 1365) on :
(((Boon)))
Glad the baby figured out which way is OUT. Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :
I was sort of in your shoes a year ago, minus the flipping part. But thought I'd be due April 26th. Since all my babies have been late, I thought "I'll just get induced on the 21st". But I wasn't "ready". The various checks got really discouraging. I don't think I was any more ready by the 5th, when they finally induced because I was over a week overdue.
P.S. I forgot my whole point, which was that turning the calendar over to May was so depressing! (((Boon)))
[ May 03, 2004, 01:53 PM: Message edited by: pooka ]
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
What Ela said!
I'm confused, though. If the contractions slow/stop, why a C? Is induction not a possibility? (Not that I'm questioning your doctor! I'm just wondering.)
Good luck!
Posted by romanylass (Member # 6306) on :
Good baby!!!!!
Really, try the sex. And eggplant.
If you're more serious, run by your doc a combo of black and blue cohosh ( in tea or tincture form). I used it in two of my long drawn out prodromal labors.
~~~~~Boon~~~~~ ~~~~~~Baby~~~~~~~
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
The contractions that I'm having are enough for effacement, but aren't strong enough to dilate anything.
Once things are "ripe" he'll induce.
In the meantime, I haven't really had any cravings until now. I'd kill for some KFC cole slaw. Yuck! But I want some anyway. I'm wierd.
Posted by Narnia (Member # 1071) on :
Mmm. KFC cole slaw.
(((Boon))) Hang in there dear. This will be over SOON. We'll send good labor vibes your way.
~~~~~~~~~~~~ (those are good labor vibes)
Posted by sarcasticmuppet (Member # 5035) on :
(((boon))) (((baby boon)))
Posted by peterh (Member # 5208) on :
Good ways to speed things up:
1. Jumping Jacks
2. Roller Coasters
3. Bungee Jumping
Hope that helps...
Completely TIC! Hope he comes out fine and beautiful when he's good and ready. Hope you can stand it that long too. Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
I really craved KFC mashed potatoes. I would buy a large one and eat it all in the car on the way home.
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quote: 3. Bungee Jumping
Sure, if you don't mind giving birth through your nose.
[ May 07, 2004, 11:37 AM: Message edited by: PSI Teleport ]
Posted by Dan_raven (Member # 3383) on :
quote:Sure, if you don't mind giving birth through your nose.
Could that be any more painful that giving birth where you normally give birth?
((boon)) ((soon to be bouncy baby boon))
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
I've said this before, Dan, once you reach a certain pain threshold, you don't care how much more painful it gets. You just want to die, and that's all that matters.
What's important is the stretching of the nose. Can you get the elasticity back? Are there any exercises that you can do to improve the tone of the nasal area? Plus, what about the lack of control over your snot? By the time you realize your nose is about to run, it's too late. You can't make it to the Kleenex in time. And having everything stretched out to that degree would decrease the enjoyment of nose-blowing for everyone involved.
Posted by Dan_raven (Member # 3383) on :
Yeah but boy would it clean out those sinuses.
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
It may, but it would take six weeks before the sinuses were cleaned out enough to resume normal nose-blowing activities.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Had a pretty restless night, kept feeling like I had to throw up. Then, when I'd get up, had to pee. Then, when I'd get to the bathroom to pee...nothing!
Slept 'til noon, lucky me. Now I'm up, and the contractions are about 10 minutes apart with some downward pressure. If they don't stop or slow down by 2, which they have done before, I'll call the doctor.
Posted by Ela (Member # 1365) on :
Good luck, Boon!!!
Posted by Space Opera (Member # 6504) on :
*Sends labor vibes*
I'm sure all this waiting has been a pain, but just imagine how guilty you can make the kid feel one day about it! Good luck.
space opera
Posted by romanylass (Member # 6306) on :
~~~~~~laborlaborlabor~~~~ Wow, PSI I crved KFC mashed potatos in labor with #2, too. And I never eat fast food.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
Good luck, Boon!
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
I think it's weird that we're all WISHING this thing upon you that will cause extreme pain. I prefer ~~babybabybaby~~.
Posted by Narnia (Member # 1071) on :
Yay Boon, I hope this is IT!! (and here's a shout out to your little guy too. I'm sure he'll need some extra encouragement. )
Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :
(((Boon))) I had a dream last night that you sent me a text message on my wireless that the baby was born.
So who is still in the wagering pool? It looks like imogen is the only one who was excited about the actual "due date" of May 13. Just think, you baby may have a Friday the 13th birthday from time to time.
(edit out snarkies now that I don't have to worry about preserving my psychic moment for posterity)
[ May 12, 2004, 10:46 PM: Message edited by: pooka ]
Posted by zgator (Member # 3833) on :
I have another friend who is at 37.5 weeks now. Her baby is a moose and they were talking about inducing at 39 weeks. Now the doctor is backing off of that. She wants the baby to come sooner rather than later. It is interesting to watch and see who comes first, Boon's or hers. I know Boon's is due sooner but you never know!
Hang in there Boon!
AJ
Posted by zgator (Member # 3833) on :
Boon, aren't you past the due date now?
Cause you can't try what I posted until you're past the date. I'm not sure what would happen, but I'm sure it would be terrible.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Sigh...I'm due Thursday.
Yesterday, I mostly rested. See, my sister is a truck driver, and really wants to be home for this one. She missed the first two. So I was trying to make things go slowly so she could make it home...
Well, apparently, I rested too much, 'cause the contractions have been, once again, doing NOTHING!!! His head is down there. Things should be progressing, but I'm not even effacing now. Nothing. Nada. Zilch.
Still have too much fluid, but otherwise Thomas is fine. His heartrate is good, he's still VERY active, his lungs are working properly. The placenta is fine...so Doc has decided not to induce now. One more week...God, I don't know if I can make it...
Did I tell you he has a lot of fluid? You know, babies are supposed to slow down near the end and only really be able to squirm, not really kick, because they just don't have room...Thomas doesn't have that problem, and he's a big, healthy baby, so he puts lots of oompf behind those kicks. I feel like I'm carrying a team of field goal kickers or something.
Right after Doc told us to come back in a week, he left the room so I could get dressed. I couldn't help it, I started crying. So he comes back and I'm sniffling into a kleenex. I'm just so frustrated at this point...and tired...and sore...and tired...and tired...
Hubby bought me a new baby swing today. Christy, if you read this, I reccommend this one. Especially if you like to spend time outdoors or away from home. Just think...PORTABILITY! That's the only drawback with any swing...but not this one. Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
((Boon))
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
How frustrating! (((((Boon)))))
But it's great that he's healthy, and remembering the whole head-down thing. You just did a bit TOO good of a job at making a comfy nest -- he figures it's a great pad, he's got it to himself -- why leave?
Good luck!
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Dan says he left post-its in there..."punch here", "kick there"...
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
I knew it!
Posted by Christy (Member # 4397) on :
Boon, we've already gotten this rocker for much the same reason I do like that swing, though! I hadn't seen it when we were registering.
My mom also just got us a travel playpen from a friend of hers who was getting rid of it. I think that will be really nice for outdoors and visiting relatives, too.
Hang in there! I know a week sounds like a long time, but you'll make it through! I don't envy you the kicks -- I think my little girl is doing somersaults now, but she's been quite a kicker as well!
Posted by zgator (Member # 3833) on :
Christy, you will probably want a swing even with that rocker. When they're little, they can't make it rock themselves and you're going to get awfully tired doing it yourself.
Posted by advice for robots (Member # 2544) on :
*high-fives boon*
I am well acquainted with the frustration of long, drawn-out false labor contractions, if not the physical discomfort. It makes the final weeks seem like months. Hang in there! When that little guy comes out and you see him for the first time, all will be forgiven. Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :
Apparently the Braxton Hicks contractions get more and more realistic feeling with subsequent pregnancies. I was sure I was going into labor several times with my fourth.
Posted by Christy (Member # 4397) on :
that's why its got a nice little vibrator.
*grin* Now there's one for the OOC thread!
Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :
Happy due date Boon. These things are such a crock. But I'm sending you speedy labor vibes: ~~~~~~~Boon~~~~~~~ ~~~~~Boonlet~~~~~~
Posted by unicornwhisperer (Member # 294) on :
That's awesome.
Best of luck Boon. Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Dan was 13 days early. Jen was born ON her due date.
Does this mean I have 13 days to go?!?
I just want to sleep. Rest. Peaceful, painless slumber. At least, once he's born, he won't be able to kick me while I'm sleeping. Posted by Phanto (Member # 5897) on :
Boon:
There won't be kicking, sure.
Screaming? Ah... *that's* a different story.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Yeah, but at least it won't hurt. Besides, nobody said I couldn't get somebody in here to help with the first few restless nights. Just one night...just one...
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
Boon, I was born 4 weeks early.
My little sister? 3 weeks late.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
I'm ready to scream.
I got the crib out of Dan's closet more than a week ago. I thought that when I took it apart last time, I put the bolts into a ziplock, and taped that to one of the rails. No such luck.
I searched the toolbox...the LOGICAL place for it to be...no hardware.
Since then, I've been actually unpacking boxes full of stuff that hasn't seen the light of day since Florida, to no avail. No hardware.
I've been through every room, every closet, every drawer...no hardware.
I SO don't want to have to buy another crib when all I need are the bolts and supports for the spring. Looks like I may have no chioce, though...unless the hardware store happens to have what I need this afternoon.
Also, on the subject of baby showers...would it be selfish of me to be mad at my mother and sister? This is my third child and I've never been given a baby shower. My sister was maid of honor at my first wedding and never threw a bridal shower either. I'd feel awkward organizing one myself...isn't this something they should do? I would if it were my sister, or my daughter...or even my friend.
Heck, one of DH's friends' WIVES, who hardly knows me, offered to throw me one, but she told DH while I wan't around and he told her no thanks. He "didn't know I wanted one." I do, but I want somebody that, you know, at least knows me to throw it. Am I wrong? Should I say something?
Posted by Dead_Horse (Member # 3027) on :
((((Boon))))
It must be getting really close. Hang in there, Momma.
The hardware store should be able to replace the hardware that is lost. You may have to take the crib there. Dan should take care of it. You shouldn't have to be putting the crib together now. Nagging is okay though.
Yes, it's okay to be mad about never having a baby shower. I think I'd wait a week or two to say anything about it, though, if I said anything at all. Who knows, one of them might be hit by that bright idea any minute now, and then how would you feel?
I have no idea what you must be going through physically. I can't imagine. But the frustration, yes, I understand. Screaming might help.
Rain
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
quote: Dan should take care of it.
Dan's seven.
DH is completely hopeless in the tool department. He has trouble distinguishing between a claw hammer and a rubber mallet. Truly, I'll feel more comfortable if I put it together myself. It's not like I haven't done it about 6 times already, between the 3 kids that have used it and moves between rooms and states. Posted by romanylass (Member # 6306) on :
Boon, can you e-mail the crib manufacturer about buying new hardware?
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Lack of sleep has fried my brain! Lemme go see if the manufacturer is listed on the frame. Thanks!
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Well...looks like I'm buying a new crib anyway. This one has been recalled for loose/missing side slats. My crib's slats aren't loose, but I'm not taking the chance. I guess it's a good thing this happened.
No, I'm not reusing a carseat, swing, or playpen. And I always send in those recall cards. I don't know why they didn't send me something about this crib, unless it just came between moves or something. Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :
Hope you find the hardware, Boon. The bad news is I think a baby shower is typically for the first baby, or sometimes the sixth or if you are having a boy and only have girl stuff. The good news is you don't have to wait to yell at your mom and your sister about it. Not that I'd recommend that. Maybe they got messed up by Father of the Bride II or something. I don't even remember what happened in that. Did the mother and daughter spontaneously agreed to throw one for each other because they were conveniently both pregnant?
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
It's now the end of D+3. Still not much going on.
Warning: novel-length rant ahead!
I'm rather peeved at my sister. She came home (to my parents' place, about 45 minutes from here) on Wednesday, and I've yet to see her.
I'm on strict orders not to be more than 1/2 hour from the hospital, so I can't go visit.
While she's on the road, she complains about how lonely it is out there. She whines about how much she misses my kids. Her cell bill comes to me, and she spends about 7000 minutes a month on the phone, less than 100 of which are to me. I invited her to come spend the night here Friday, have dinner, and go shopping Saturday. She declined, saying one of her trucker "boyfriends" had invited her to go spend the weekend with him in Arkansas.
Then, when I called Mom Saturday morning, she said Sis hadn't gone to Arkansas, but had spent the evening "out" with one of her friends bar-hopping.
Yesterday, when I realized I had to buy a crib, I called...and called, and left messages and called all afternoon and couldn't reach her. First she was in the bathroom, then she was outside...I even paged her cell. It wasn't until I told Mom why I was calling that she told me Sis was taking a nap! It's a good thing I wasn't in labor...she'd have missed it!
When I finally talked to her (after 7pm) she said she couldn't come up this morning, but would call this afternoon and we'd go then. She wouldn't say why she couldn't come before noon...
Have I mentioned that my parents live in a tiny travel trailer parked next to the bar my mother manages?
Turns out, she spent last night tying one on again, slept 'til 3, and then left again. She didn't bother to call me and say she wasn't coming, and still hasn't called.
She was at the hospital when Dan was born, but policy only allowed 2 people in the room, and both of my parents were there. She was at the hospital when Jen was born, and was supposed to be in the room, but my mother wouldn't leave so she could come in. She says she really wants to be in the room for this one...but she's leaving Wednesday.
I have a doctor's appointment Tuesday afternoon. Frankly, even if he wants to send me to the hospital then, I'm tempted to ask him if we can wait until she's gone. I've already told my parents I don't want them in the room this time...not that I think my mother will listen, but my doctor knows too and will kick her out for me.
I don't want to be angry with her. I know my hormones are screwed up, but I think this is extremely inconsiderate of her. I don't really blame her for not wanting to come up here...I've been rather a b*tch lately, but she could at least call. Right?
/rant
Judging from his activity, Thomas is still fine. DH picked me up some mexican for dinner....yummy! and I'm trying to just rest as much as possible, in between putting furniture together and folding baby blankets. Posted by Lara (Member # 132) on :
(((Boon))) It's not just hormones, you have a perfectly rational right to want her to call.
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
What Lara said -- hormones or no hormones, she's not behaving much like someone I'd want around either.
(((((Boon)))))
Posted by BannaOj (Member # 3206) on :
When are they going to induce?
My other friend is going to be induced in a week on the 24th, if her little boy Shawn doesn't decide to come earlier. I think technically she was due on June 2nd, but they are already estimating the kid is 8-8.5 pounds, hence the early induction.
AJ
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
I wouldn't let my mom come in when I had my kids. She would have talked the whole time, and I would have been forced to kick her in the head to shut her up. I had to avoid getting violent, so I did the best thing I could. Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
D+4...
My appointment is tomorrow afternoon. Maybe he'll induce then...if not, I think I'll shoot him!
Still haven't heard from Sis. DH is going to take me shopping this afternoon...I guess he knows how upset I am about this, 'cause he HATES to shop.
When Jen was born, DH, his mother, my sister, and both of my parents were at the hospital. At one point, I was really getting stressed out and asked everyone but DH to leave the room for a while, that DH would come get them in a while.
I suppose it didn't help that our mothers first met at the hospital, but I could definitely feel the strain between them, and it didn't help me relax. SO I kicked them out.
Well...I had told his mom and my sister they could be in the room when Jen was born...but my mother came back about 10 minutes after I kicked them all out and didn't leave again! By then, I was mostly incoherent, but every time I became aware, she was talking about how I should "think about what Sarah (fron the Bible) did, you can do it!" I kept asking her for quiet, but she just can't control herself.
DH told me later that at one point I told her to "shut the f^%k up!" I also told her specifically to get out and send Sis in. She refused. Apparently, she didn't think it was right that DH's mom be there and she not.
He's right, because she was hurt and angry for weeks afterward.
This time, his parent's aren't coming to town, and Doc and DH have strict instructions. Mom and Dad have both been told, and I even told Mom (nicely) that we'd have her removed from the hospital if she didn't listen to me this time.
Anyway, gotta run, almost time to pick the kiddies up and go shopping!
Posted by romanylass (Member # 6306) on :
Too bad the crib was recalled.
Y'know, when I had my kids I was so happy I lived on a different coast than my mother. I truly think having her at my births could have ended in violence. I don't hink it's hormonal, I think you're wise.
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
What never fails to amaze me is the fact that some women who have given birth could be so inconsiderate of the feelings of other women who are giving birth. Did they forget what it was like? Far more important than making sure a wedding pleases the ones getting married is having the birth experience be exactly how the mom-to-be wants it. (As far as that's possible.) When you are in labor, you call the shots. If that means someone's voice is grating on your nerves, get rid of them! If someone is wearing squeaky shoes, make them take 'em off! I don't know how a mother could be so rude as to ignore the requests of their child when they have suffered the same torment and must surely understand what it's like. It's baffling, and yet they do it, generation after generation.
I remember being in the hospital the day after having a baby, and getting phone call after phone call. Each person would advise me to "sleep when the baby sleeps". I'm thinking, "No kidding, I'm trying!" Now that I've been there, I never directly call the room of a new mom. Why is it that other women never learn from their own birthing experiences, and try to make it as comfortable as possible for the new mom? It's so aggravating.
I know that some moms may have enjoyed getting the calls, and that each person's experience is different. The point is more that it's very important to honor their wishes.
Posted by Dead_Horse (Member # 3027) on :
Oh, dear, I really didn't know Dan was not your DH. But apparently I did instinctively pick the one who was more mechanically inclined.
Your sister is behaving pretty rudely. I'd have given up on her already.
And no way would I have ever let any friends or relatives in my delivery room. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't invite my husband, either. For that matter, the minute I found out I was pregnant, I would have disappeared from his life altogether. He's not a very good father.
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
I let me husband come in, but only because he's the only person I know that can remain perfectly quiet. And my mother-in-law was there, but someone needs to hold the barfy basin.
Posted by Christy (Member # 4397) on :
Boon, you have every right to be mad at your sis!! That's downright rude, pregnancy hormones or not.
We were able to find the screws to our crib at the hardware store -- good thing because we got a used one for free and it came minus one screw! That's a shame yours is being recalled.
It seriously took us three hours to figure out how to install the kick panel on the crib. *blush* We didn't have any directions (and couldn't find them online) and kept thinking it should go on backwards (to step on it rather than kick it). It was amazing how quickly it went together once we finally figured that out!
I'm sorry to hear about your mom not respecting your wishes with your labor as well! Good for you for asking your doctor to take a hand this time.
I felt pretty guilty telling my mom that I didn't think I wanted her in the delivery room, but made it up to her by saying she could come as soon as she wanted after that, which seemed to be an acceptable compromise. She was ready to camp out here in Madison and be there when I delivered. I love my mom, but she tends to get a bit hysterical and is definitely not good with doctors and I'm sure I would be more upset with her than comforted.
*sends relaxing thoughts Boon's way*
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
No mother should ever feel guilty about anything she wants during delivery.
Dagonee
Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :
My mom told me a grotesque story during my last labor that is one of the reasons I wound up getting an epidural (also I had a headcold and DH tried to sneak a couple of cookies into the room). I was glad to be there during my sister's delivery but I caught myself almost saying a couple of really bone headed things.
So when you say the cell bill comes to you, does that mean you pay for it? That was the main thing that caught my attention.
Posted by PSI Teleport (Member # 5545) on :
I think a good plan of attack if you are in the delivery room is to stay quiet unless they are talking first, and sound like they want a response. Then, if they beg you to talk, you can.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
No, I don't pay her bill! It comes here because she doesn't have a permanent physical home address, and neither do my parents. The company she went with required one, therefore her bill comes here. I open it and tell her how much to pay, and she stops at the next store and pays it.
Anyway, turns out I don't have to buy a crib. DH's friend, the one who's land we live on, who threw that amazing 4th of July party last summer...he and his wife are loaning me thiers. They have a HUGE house, and keep one of the bedrooms set up as a nursery for when their grandkids come to visit, but none of them are that age right now. And, since none of their kids are expecting, they won't be needing it for a while.
It's a very, very nice solid mahogany peice of furniture, and I'm very grateful.
So, the big shopping trip turned out to be dinner and groceries, but that's okay.
DH is really trying to be sweet. Funny story, he climbed into bed last night rather late and I was already alseep. He forgot, momentarily, that I was pregnant. I'm not sure how that happened, but...
So he put his arm around me and rested his hand under my ribcage...Thomas chose that moment to give me one of the hardest kicks yet, right where his hand was! Poor guy jumped out of the bed!
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
The end is in sight!
I can't post too many details, though, 'cause that might screw up some of the baby shower games...
But at least now I know for sure that it will all be over by a certain day... Posted by Pixie (Member # 4043) on :
Yay for Boon and the baby finally coming! And poor Boon's DH! Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
D+7...
I keep hoping we'll pre-empt the induction, but it just ain't happening.
That's okay, though...not too much longer.
At this point, I'm mostly just grouchy.
The kids keep saying how much they'll miss me when I'm in the hospital, but at the rate I'm going, they'll be glad to see me leave for a while!
Seriously, I catch myself yelling at them for stupid, insignificant crap that just irritates me. I've apologized to them many, many times over the last few days, and explained to them that I'm tired and grouchy, and I still love them, and all of that, but I feel really, really guilty about it.
I've never had this much physical difficulty with a pregnancy before. Then again, according to Doc, I've never tried to carry quite this much extra weight before either...or for this long.
Heh...while grocery shopping the other night, DH spotted some Dreft and wanted to buy it. I had to remind him that I've never, ever bought special detergent for baby stuff, I just turn on the machine for a second rinse. I'm realizing every day how much he's forgotten. I'm not sure that's a good thing... Posted by MyrddinFyre (Member # 2576) on :
Hooray for A Certain Day! Keep up the good work !
Posted by BannaOj (Member # 3206) on :
Hmm I can't help but wonder what the induction date is. I think my friend Ellie's is next Monday. I'm guessing yours is tomorrow...
AJ
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Not tomorrow, but I still may win the race! Posted by BannaOj (Member # 3206) on :
lol, well I was thinking the doc wouldn't want to induce on a weekend if he could help it. That was Ellie's doctors logic...
AJ
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
The hospitals are quieter on the weekends, because most doctors use that logic. Not mine, though. I'm to be in L&D at 6am Saturday. Posted by romanylass (Member # 6306) on :
Yay for the loaner crib!! Sounds very pretty, I'll bet buying a mahogony crib would have cost a fortune!
I'll send you happy labor vibes on Saturday morning!!!
Posted by Christy (Member # 4397) on :
Yaay for Boon all around! We'll be thinking of you Saturday as well.
Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :
I don't know what the water is like where you live, but in UT those special baby detergents are better at getting out those special baby stains. But our water is pretty hard. Still, if a second rinse does it, more power to you. I'm sure that's healthier. Oooh, laundry... gotta go! Glad you have the date in sight. My sister just announced today she is expecting her first in December.
Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
Boon...are you sure you're pregnant?
This is taking an awfully long time, you know.
I've seen civilizations rise and fall in less time (take Troy for example).
Anyway, have a great delivery! Be safe & have a very healthy child.
- Bob
Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
Bob, I suspect that were you in easy reach, you would soon regret that comment.
But since most post-due moms are doing their best to conserve energy, you may be safe.
For now.
Posted by BelladonnaOrchid (Member # 188) on :
Hooray for Momma-Boon and Baby-Boon having a set day!
Early congradulations for both as well!
Posted by BannaOj (Member # 3206) on :
LMAO Ellie is going to beat you to delivery by a hair. She had an appointment today, and the doc doesn't like how her bloodpressure has been steadily rising over the last week. (Gone from 120/80 a week ago, to 135/80 and now 135/90) She is 2 cm dialated. Anyway he told her to go home and pack a bag, and check herself into the hospital, today. She's been wanting to have her baby just as bad as you, but the shock of NOW? Today? has her reeling. She just called me!
So good luck on your baby tomorrow Boon! Maybe yours will come today too.
AJ
[ May 21, 2004, 11:20 AM: Message edited by: BannaOj ]
Posted by Dan_raven (Member # 3383) on :
Gee, and I thought my weekend was going to be tough because I have to cut the lawn.
On the positive side, they just announced that the elephant at our local zoo--Raja-- will be a father. He succesfully impregnated a female elephant a few months ago.
The deliver for the elephant is in November or October....
of 2005.
See, compared to that, this should be a cake.
Posted by Christy (Member # 4397) on :
*pies both Dan_Raven and Bob*
This pregnant lady still has the energy!
Posted by Dan_raven (Member # 3383) on :
mmmmmmm pie.
Posted by Boon (Member # 4646) on :
Thanks Christy!
D+8...tomorrow's the big day! It's a good thing, too, 'cause my feet and ankles are swelled up like balloons! This is a new development...and not welcome at all. Oh, well...
Baby blankets are all washed and folded, bags are packed...crib's not set up yet, but it will be by the time I get home...of course, it'll have to pass a thorough inspection.
Dad will be here soon so he can watch the kids for me this evening so I can go to bed extra early. (DH has to work tonight.) He'll be spending the night so we won't even have to wake anyone up in the morning...we can just kiss the kiddos and head to the hospital. He's bringing enough clothes and stuff to stay for a few days if I need him to.
Mother's planning on coming to the hospital after she gets off work at noon. Sis may or may not be there...but Mom's still not coming in! I'm not taking any crap this time! I mean it!
Anyway...Dana's still on the list, so she'll get a phone call as soon as Thomas makes his big debut.
I'm so excited! Hope I can rest well tonight... Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
Good luck! Posted by Farmgirl (Member # 5567) on :
Hopefully, Boon, you are at the hospital as I write this.
Wanted you to know that my thoughts and prayers and with you and the baby during this wonderful time.
Farmgirl
Posted by MyrddinFyre (Member # 2576) on :
*waits impatiently for news* Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
We still haven't heard anything?
*bites nails*
*dislikes taste of steel*
Posted by ClaudiaTherese (Member # 923) on :
*fingers crossed for Boon
Posted by tt&t (Member # 5600) on :
Oooh good luck! Posted by dkw (Member # 3264) on :
Baby!!! Boon left a message on my voice mail about 40 minutes ago -- Thomas Russell was born yesterday evening at 6:30!
Posted by Dead_Horse (Member # 3027) on :
I guess she would have mentioned if anything was wrong?
Hooray for Boon and baby and family!!!!
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
Posted by TomDavidson (Member # 124) on :
(Note: this is Tom, typing for Christy, posting as Tom.)
Christy: Where are the specs? Length, weight, hair? (Tom: optional accessories?)
Congratulations, Boon!
Posted by Pixie (Member # 4043) on :
Congratulations!!!!!!
Posted by Narnia (Member # 1071) on :
Yay Boon!! Welcome Thomas!!! Posted by Dan_raven (Member # 3383) on :
I hate to get the party started without either of the two main guests of honor,
but hey.
CONGRATZZZZZZZZ!!!!!!
Posted by Dagonee (Member # 5818) on :
*still waiting for his Cohiba*
An Opus X would do nicely as well.
Dagonee
Posted by Bob_Scopatz (Member # 1227) on :
Sorry, all I have is a Partagas, but it's one of the really nice ones in a glass tube. Okay?
Posted by pooka (Member # 5003) on :
Wooo hooo! Sorry it took me so long to reply, I kept coming in to find this thread but getting hooked by some other title.
P.S. I guess some marketing suit could do well by checking my post history since saturday to see which threads were of more interest to me than checking in on Boon, who was the reason I came back to Hatrack.
[ May 26, 2004, 01:18 PM: Message edited by: pooka ]
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