A friend of mine has two parents. One is horribly and abusive, the other is sweet and kind and does everything she can for her kids, including protect them.
The mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. Just found out she might have a year left of her life.
There's more.
I have an eight year old client that was just diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor. It's growing fast. He's already lost most of the use of the left side of his body.
wtf?
This is the unfairness of life that makes no sense at all. Why is the good parent dying and leaving my friend with the crap parent? Why is this eight year old kid getting stuck with this? Posted by rivka (Member # 4859) on :
My sympathies, mack. I'd hug you, but I know you think I have cooties . . . Posted by eslaine (Member # 5433) on :
(((mackillian)))
[ October 22, 2003, 09:18 PM: Message edited by: eslaine ]
Posted by Frisco (Member # 3765) on :
Relax. It's all part of His plan.
Posted by Pat (Member # 879) on :
Frisco's right. It's all God's fault.
[ October 22, 2003, 09:22 PM: Message edited by: Pat ]
Posted by dkw (Member # 3264) on :
I'm sorry mac. Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
Don't feel sorry for ME. It's this kid and my friend's mom and my friend and the kid's family...
Posted by dkw (Member # 3264) on :
Check. But is it okay if I worry about you, too?
Posted by Pat (Member # 879) on :
I too am sorry for the family.
A guy who is a reporter for the LDS Church News who works in the building with me and I socialize with regularly lost his wife to cancer about a year ago. Last weekend, he lost his oldest son in a car accident.
I feel horrible for him, but he's doing remarkably well, considering.
Posted by Storm Saxon (Member # 3101) on :
*shakes fist at injustice*
Posted by suntranafs (Member # 3318) on :
*Is real glad it ain't him*
Posted by Pat (Member # 879) on :
It's been my experience that everyone gets their turn.
Posted by TomDavidson (Member # 124) on :
Mac, what can I say? The universe ISN'T fair. There is clearly no justice in this life -- despite, say, claims made by Ryan Hart -- and you and I won't know until we die whether there's justice in the next.
Entropy is an inexorable force of nature. All we can do is build little grass baskets up against the tide, and remember that being alive is, for the most part, actually pretty enjoyable.
Posted by Megachirops (Member # 4325) on :
Posted by Pat (Member # 879) on :
Wow Tom. That was a pretty good sermon there. You ever thought of going into the priesthood?
Posted by Megachirops (Member # 4325) on :
::nods vigorously in agreement::
"little grass baskets . . . "
Pretty!
Posted by suntranafs (Member # 3318) on :
Look Tom, I'm a professional pessimist, and you need to cut down on the cynic juice. Seriously, I think you're a great guy and all, but your comment pretty near wrecked my day Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
I'm in the profession of finding validation in everyone and everything.
With this, it just plain sucks. Tom's right.
Posted by Megachirops (Member # 4325) on :
quote:I'm in the profession of finding validation in everyone and everything.
Are you, really? Or are you in the business of finding coping skills and perspective?
Posted by mackillian (Member # 586) on :
And you are apparently in the business of making snide remarks.
I meant validation in the clinical sense--the kind where you find the strengths in clients and situations and point them out. I also meant it as a double meaning for the connotation of validation.
So throw some more snide remarks.
Posted by Megachirops (Member # 4325) on :
Hey. Chill.
Posted by Tresopax (Member # 1063) on :
Well, if you want to go the religious approach, if the good woman passes away, she'll likely go on to heaven, while the abusive one still gets a chance to redeem herself. In contrast, if the abusive one were dying now, she wouldn't get that chance and might be condemned for eternity.
That is part of the idea behind Christianity, right - that death shouldn't be considered horrible if you are going on to heaven?
Posted by T_Smith (Member # 3734) on :
Mack, for what it's worth I've thought about the same things but based upon different situations.
Posted by porcelain girl (Member # 1080) on :
well, i don't believe life ends when we die, and i don't think this part of our existence is where the justice comes into play.
thankfully, there are people that, despite all the injustice, all the pain, all the ugliness- are willing to thrust their hand through the darkness and help those around them.
i still have hope.
Posted by ssywak (Member # 807) on :
Mack,
I hope your friends & clients don't believe in God, or anything like that.
They'd think He was out to get them, or something.
Much safer to believe in an uncaring universe, and the luck (or lack thereof) of the draw.
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